Many couples choose not to invite children to their wedding. However, there are other couples who not only choose to invite children to their wedding, but also look forward to including them in the ceremony.
Let us face it, having children in the ceremony makes it all the more pleasant and interesting. So, if you want your child or other children from your family involved in your wedding, here are some ideas on how you can have them participate.
Roles for very young girls and little boys
Flower girls are the most obvious role little girls can take care of. Choose their attire to either match the pattern or style of your wedding dress, or so it goes well with the bridesmaids dresses. Since your flower girls will usually be very young children, aged 6 years or younger, it is good if you stick to a dress that is knee-length or calf-length. Keep it simple and manageable, as you cannot expect a little girl to sit still for long and have her dress stay crisp and clean for much time.
If your wedding dress has a long train, you can also have one or two little girls as your train bearers as you glide down the aisle. Just make sure they are capable of handling their role and have them practice their act with you, before the wedding day.
Little boys can be ring bearers and the cutest way to dress them up is in a suit that matches the groom’s. Discuss with the parents to make sure that the children will be comfortable wearing the attire you choose, or you will have them fiddling and complaining, instead of being cheerful and excited.
Roles for older girls and boys
Girls who are ten years or older can be a part of your wedding party as junior bridesmaids. While they needn’t dress up exactly like the rest of the bridal party, make sure that the color and pattern of their dress matches the wedding color theme.
Boys of this age group can be junior groomsmen or ushers. They can also hand out programs or be in charge of the guest book. Plan their role based on the personality of the child involved and whether they would be fine with performing the tasks you want them to.
While you can expect older children to behave and not create a scene at your wedding, you cannot always say the same of younger children. Unless they are familiar with such formal occasions, you have to be prepared for last-minute tantrums and tears. Before you decide on including children in your ceremony, make sure you can take this in your stride, should the situation arise. Talk to the parents and find out how you can make their children comfortable.
If parents are bridesmaids or ushers, you can have the younger children complete their role and then join their parents on the stage. Else, have them directed to the front row, where they can sit for the rest of the ceremony and not create distractions.
With a little luck and planning, everything should go smoothly and the children will fondly remember you for honoring them with a role at your wedding. For more wedding day tips and advice, visit us on Best for Bride.