Many couples choose not to invite children to their wedding. However, there are other couples who not only choose to invite children to their wedding, but also look forward to including them in the ceremony.
Let us face it, having children in the ceremony makes it all the more pleasant and interesting. So, if you want your child or other children from your family involved in your wedding, here are some ideas on how you can have them participate.
Roles for very young girls and little boys
Flower girls are the most obvious role little girls can take care of. Choose their attire to either match the pattern or style of your wedding dress, or so it goes well with the bridesmaids dresses. Since your flower girls will usually be very young children, aged 6 years or younger, it is good if you stick to a dress that is knee-length or calf-length. Keep it simple and manageable, as you cannot expect a little girl to sit still for long and have her dress stay crisp and clean for much time.
If your wedding dress has a long train, you can also have one or two little girls as your train bearers as you glide down the aisle. Just make sure they are capable of handling their role and have them practice their act with you, before the wedding day.
Little boys can be ring bearers and the cutest way to dress them up is in a suit that matches the groom’s. Discuss with the parents to make sure that the children will be comfortable wearing the attire you choose, or you will have them fiddling and complaining, instead of being cheerful and excited.
Roles for older girls and boys
Girls who are ten years or older can be a part of your wedding party as junior bridesmaids. While they needn’t dress up exactly like the rest of the bridal party, make sure that the color and pattern of their dress matches the wedding color theme.
Boys of this age group can be junior groomsmen or ushers. They can also hand out programs or be in charge of the guest book. Plan their role based on the personality of the child involved and whether they would be fine with performing the tasks you want them to.
While you can expect older children to behave and not create a scene at your wedding, you cannot always say the same of younger children. Unless they are familiar with such formal occasions, you have to be prepared for last-minute tantrums and tears. Before you decide on including children in your ceremony, make sure you can take this in your stride, should the situation arise. Talk to the parents and find out how you can make their children comfortable.
If parents are bridesmaids or ushers, you can have the younger children complete their role and then join their parents on the stage. Else, have them directed to the front row, where they can sit for the rest of the ceremony and not create distractions.
With a little luck and planning, everything should go smoothly and the children will fondly remember you for honoring them with a role at your wedding. For more wedding day tips and advice, visit us on Best for Bride.
If you want a wedding theme that will stand the test of time, and will always be in style—Classic Weddings are the way to go!
Timeless in their elegance, reminiscent of bygone eras, superb in details and executed with perfection, it is no wonder that classic themes are the eternal favorite. Although casual and destination weddings are all trendy, they are no competition for a classic wedding. Formal ceremonies that celebrate the matrimonial unification of man and wife with splendor and style, are a joy in itself.
Join us as we explore everything from planning your invitation, menu and wedding dress to identifying the perfect venue and picking your wedding favors for your perfect Classic Wedding.
Wedding invitation and Save-the-date cards
A classic wedding is expected to be grand, and you should ensure that your invitations reflect this. Once you choose your color palette, it is time to look at good quality stationery in this color combination. Decide on a design and a layout that is both formal and elegant. A light colored invitation with dark lettering, or a dark base with shiny lettering works best for classic themes. Your invitation sets the tone for your wedding, so use them to provide a sneak peek into what your wedding theme is. The main things to remember when designing your invitations are:
The invitation should be uncluttered with clean lines and well-spaced words
The font should be elegant, with solid strokes and straight lines and preferably in a single color throughout
Classic invitations involve plenty of custom details. Monograms, motifs, calligraphy and lace details are all suitable
Metallic colors like gold, silver and copper add flourish to classic wedding invitations
Choose your wedding invitation words carefully, so they convey the tone of the event you are hosting. A classic invitation usually begins with the name of the host followed by a request line such as “requests your honorable presence”, or a variation of this.
Elegant handwriting creates a favorable first impression, so it is something you should pay attention to. Get your envelopes addressed by someone who has a good handwriting. You can also choose to print them in calligraphy style or have them written by an expert. Also, if there are any add-on cards in your invitation, you can either choose them in the same color as your main card, or add a pop of color by choosing a complementing color.
The venue you choose for your wedding has a huge impact on how well you can pull off the classical theme. This article on the Borrowed and Blue wedding website correctly mentions that every classic bride looks forward to having show stopping décor at the reception venue. To make this possible, you need a venue that will yield to your lighting requirements, show off the colors of your palette beautifully and allow you to seat your guests in the best possible manner.
Historic houses, museums and huge banquet halls are all popular venues. You will have to decorate the chosen venue with flowers, candles, lamps and other accessories to render the charming effect you have in mind. Your floral décor should be elegant and involve blooms that are commanding and regal. If you have the budget for it, consider hiring a flower artist to create unusual and attractive floral motifs that will set your wedding apart. Think of tall centerpieces and exquisite aisle decorations with roses, tulips and orchids for a classic touch. Play with mood lighting; dim candle light is the best choice for adding extra luster and sparkle to your venue, while adding a romantic glow. Candles, glass vases, crystal, copper and gold vessels are other factors that add a unique finish. Aim for elegance, and don’t overdo the glitter as it can do more damage than good. Sheer white fabric can be used throughout your décor, for aisle decorations, as chair backs, table cloths and ceremony backdrops to add a luxuriously romantic touch.
Classic wedding color combinations
There are a number of options to consider where classic wedding color palettes are concerned. However, your main concern should be how these colors will work together at the venue you have in mind, and with the weather at the time of the wedding. A black and white combination is unquestionably classic, but there is little to innovate here. Mixing metallics like gold, silver and copper with pale, pastel colors or deep dark shades can yield classic color combinations. Some of our favorite combinations like navy with gold and black, white and gold with peach work beautifully because of the balance they create between dark and light. When you mix colors, make sure that there aren’t too many bold colors. Ideally you shouldn’t exceed more than two bold colors in your palette or it can lose its appeal. When the theme is monochromatic, go with a single intense color and add sophistication to it by clubbing it with white, black or metal. When you choose a combination of colors, you should make sure that the darker shades are well-balanced by sober neutrals like grays and beige.
When planning a classic color combination, remember that it should be easy on the eye. If you already have a certain combination in mind, it may be a good idea to choose the venue based on how well it goes with the colors you want to use. If the venue has wall-to-wall carpets that clash with your colors, or the walls are an unusual color that will work against your palette, you should probably look at another venue.
Classic elements like silk and lace will best fit the theme of your wedding. Few modern styles, like the illusion neckline, go well to classic themes. So, make sure that your choice of silhouette, fabric, embellishments and accessories work with the theme, and not against it. Lace has a timeless charm, which makes it perfect for a traditional style wedding. Lace dresses can either be entirely made of lace or with lace used only in specific locations, like the neckline, sleeves or hemline. Dresses that have scalloped hemlines look dainty and feminine, and also fit the classic wedding theme. The color you choose should ideally be white, but make sure that the shade you choose flatters your skin tone best. You can also consider gold dresses or white wedding gowns with metallic or crystal embellishments in a different color for an unusual look. The other fabric that is perfect for classic weddings is satin. Make your pick from the available choices like Larissa Satin or Duchess satin, in a silhouette that flatters your body structure.
For a classic wedding theme, you have to choose a traditional silhouette. Elaborate ball-gowns, A-line skirts and fit-and-flare gowns work well. Where necklines are concerned, most necklines work as long as the dress as a whole looks classic. Nevertheless, strapless, halter and spaghetti straps may not be the best choices for this style of wedding. We think that bateau necklines, scoop, V-necklines, illusion and Queen Anne necklines are the best. Wedding dresses with cap-sleeves, three-fourth illusion sleeves and butterfly sleeves are some of the most classic choices.
Another factor to consider is the veil and train. A long veil and at least a chapel train are absolutely essential to nailing a classic bridal look. Complete your bridal look with accessories like pearls and gemstones in your jewelry. Dazzling headpieces like tiaras, headpins or headbands would also add to your overall look. When choosing your bouquet, choose traditional styles like the nosegay or round bouquet with flowers like roses and tulips. Focus on keeping it simple and stunning. You do not have to use all the colors in your color palette, instead pick the most flattering color and work around it.
Bridesmaids, groomsmen and flower girls
Stick with full-length dresses for your bridesmaids in either the main colors or in neutral shades. While you may like to look at dresses that fit the latest trends, make sure that it is a choice that will not look dated ten years later. Also aim for elegance. The groomsmen should be in tuxedos, and their shirt or tie colors should match the bridesmaids dresses. While black is the standard choice for tuxes, you can always go with a different color like navy or brown, as long as it flows with the theme. You can have your flower girl wear a miniature version of your dress. Stick with pearls or classic flower choices to dress up your wedding party. Similarly make sure that the accessories and hairstyle you ask them to wear to your wedding are not too unusual.
For boutonnieres and bridesmaids bouquets, adhere to the same rules as for the bridal bouquet. It is best to create beautiful flower pieces out of the colors that are easily available, than force the colors into your bouquet or make-do with the ones that are similar.
Ceremony and reception
Traditional is always best, when it comes to things like vows. It is easy and practical to use any of the traditional vows with slight variations to suit your taste. Take a look at this article on traditional wedding vows on About.com to find the one that works for you. You can either go with a professional wedding officiant or a member of family or friend to preside over the ceremony. If you choose the latter, make sure that the person has the required license to lawfully solemnize your marriage.
Classic doesn’t have to mean over-the-top. You can always achieve beauty and sophistication with simplicity, like this bride on Wedding Chicks did. This whimsical and romantic wedding party is so inspiring, so don’t forget to dive into all the details listed there.
Live-band or DJ, soft and serene music is a must for the wedding reception, as is a plated meal. For your playlist, consider a healthy mix of timeless classics with some faster modern numbers as well. Stick to the traditional tunes for the first dances. Make sure that your food options include both traditional and contemporary dishes that everyone is bound to enjoy. If you would like to personalize your menu, we suggest you add family favorites or choices that are culturally significant to you or your better-half. Make sure that everything from the place cards to table linen and chair-backs tie to the theme.
Wedding cake and favors
Nothing can replace the traditional tiered wedding cake at a classic wedding. Go with the standard round, hexagon or square shape and choose decorations like ribbons, flowers, fruits and beads that are undeniably classic in the effect they create. Soft and melt-in-the-mouth flavors are the best. Some of our favorite wedding cake designs include
White tiers with cascades of natural or candied flowers
Ombre cakes in pastel or neutral colors with minimum decorations
Cakes with alternating tiers of plain frosting and designs like lace or ruffles
Cakes with satin ribbons and classic motifs
Nude cakes with fresh fruit and cream
For wedding favors, you must pay attention to the packaging, as this goes a long way in adding the finishing touches to your well-thought out gift. Edible favors like cookies or chocolates, custom wrapped and tagged with beautiful thank you cards will be appreciated. Customized wine glasses, photo mint tins, compact cases, key chains, succulent pots, photo frames or coasters make splendid gifts. Small touches such as the addition of an organza bow and a tag that matches the rest of your wedding stationary, are all it takes to render a unique touch.
To pick your perfect wedding dress for the classic wedding theme that you have been dreaming of all along, all you have to do is visit our bridal gallery on Best for Bride. Get ready to be amazed by the hundreds of choices awaiting you. Visit our store locations or order your wedding dress online, and be on your way to being the most beautiful bride in town.
Some men just aren’t into fashion…they may find the task of choosing the perfect tux, tuxedo shirt, cummerbund and boutonniere a little bit daunting! Luckily, as his bride-to-be, you are there to help him select the most flattering combination of colors, fabrics, and styles. You can help him choose a wedding ensemble that makes him feel handsome, pulled-together, and perfectly dressed on the big day. Here are some things to consider when you’re helping your groom-to-be buy or rent the ultimate tuxedo:
His Tuxedo Should Coordinate With Your Own Bridal Gown
Creating an overall theme for your wedding is important – often, this begins with wedding outfits that coordinate. Your white wedding dress will go with many different types of dress suits and tuxes – however, certain styles will look more appropriate with certain bridal gowns. For example, a bridal dress with vintage appeal will look best with a more old-fashioned tuxedo, such as a morning coat and tails. Conversely, if you’re dressing in a modern, trendy wedding dress, you should look for a sleek, polished suit for your groom-to-be.
Considering the design features of your wedding gown, and just how formal it is, will help you find important clues about how your groom should be dressed on your special and romantic wedding day. You don’t want to wear a fabulous, embellished gown and walk down the aisle to a groom who’s dressed too casually. Your ensembles should be coordinated and balanced!
If you’re wearing a colorful sash with your wedding dress, look for ways to bring that color into your groom’s outfit. You can add pops of color to his suiting by choosing a matching cummerbund, bow tie, or boutonniere. Shop around at an online bridal store to get ideas!
Examine His General Coloring
Your handsome groom-to-be will look even more dashing in his tuxedo when it is chosen to highlight his best features and gel with his hair color, eye color, and skin tone. The principle of “seasonal beauty” come into play here. You may have heard about seasonal beauty – it works for women and men. For example, if your groom has dark hair, bright, jewel-like eyes (amber brown, sapphire blue, emerald green, jet black) and a cool skin tone (no orange or yellow undertones), he will probably be a Winter. Winter grooms look best in royal blue, true red, emerald green, and pure white accents. Black will always be a great choice for a Winter man’s tux!
If your groom-to-be is a redhead with freckles, he’ll need the right colors to look great at your wedding. Most redheaded grooms fall into the Spring or Autumn seasons – for them, colors like Kelly green, taupe, honey brown, warm yellow, and deep orange will flatter their coloring. Consider adding touches of these sun-kissed shades to his outfit, or your own bouquet, sash, or bridal rings.
While it’s nice to coordinate, you should beware of choosing tones that fight your own coloring. If you’re a Winter, and he’s a Spring, it’s better to avoid wearing “his” colors in order to coordinate.
The Summer groom will usually have soft blue-gray or pale blue eyes – he may also have brown or ash-blond hair with no golden tones. His skin may be translucent porcelain white or pale beige. This sort of groom will look best in dusty tones, such as dusty rose (British men often wear pale-pink shirts that aren’t too bright, and many British men are summers – Hugh Grant is one famous example!), pale blue, pale cream, and navy. For this type of groom, warm tones like golden yellow will fight their coloring and wash them out. Delicate Summer coloring looks best in subtle pastels that are toned down and refined. Shoot for sophistication by adding touches of blue or pale green to his outfit.
Look At His Body Type
Some grooms feel self-conscious when they shop for tuxedos or dress suits – they know they don’t have six-pack abs and all the lean definition of male models. If your guy is on the husky side, he’ll need your help to overcome any body issues and to feel like a million bucks in his wedding ensemble.
Great tailoring can make anyone look slimmer and more attractive on their wedding day. Look for dark fabrics without any shine – a matte effect is most slimming for him. Then, consider the cut of a suit. A classic three-piece suit or tuxedo featuring a vest can be an excellent way to make the most of his physique – the vest should be the same color as the jacket and pants. Often, a vest adds a bit of coverage where it is needed – in the midsection! He’ll feel great in a dark vest that takes the focus off his stomach. Consider a three-piece suit with a colorful tie that suits his skin tone. You may want to avoid colorful cummerbunds or frilly shirts if he’s a little heavy or self-conscious about his body.
Normal Build (Average)
Dressing the medium, or average body type doesn’t offer the same challenges as the husky or very slim body – you can be more creative here, as long as your guy is comfortable with that. Instead of focusing on body type and how to flatter, you can concentrate on capturing the essence of his own personal style on your wedding day. Is he casual, or formal? Does he love bright colors, or subdued tones?
Look at his wardrobe choices and find a way to bring a little of his personality into his tuxedo, dress shoes, cummerbund, vest, and shirt. Use color theory to be certain everything you choose will work for him. If you’re shopping for wedding bands, you should know that silver or white gold will flatter Summer of Winter men the most. If he’s warm (Spring or Autumn), he’ll look better in yellow or rose gold.
Skinny guys can be just as self-conscious as husky guys – they may have grown up feeling too thin or frail-looking. Men with this build often look for bulkier garments that give the illusion of more body weight and size. If you’re guy is thin and you want to find a suit that makes him feel comfortable and confident, there are plenty of options for you. Pleats are kind of unfashionable these days – in general, pleated pants will appeal to an older generation.
No matter how old your groom is, you should avoid pleating – it will make him look even thinner than he already is. Instead, look for modern, flat-front pants for his suit or tux. Look for subtle shoulder pads in suits and jackets – these will add a little definition to his shoulders by making them appear broader. The padding should be expertly sewn, and it shouldn’t be obvious. Don’t buy him a tux shirt or dress shirt that is too fitted – instead, find something a little looser, and go for a white color or pale pastel that makes him look larger.
Planning Ahead Is The Key To Success
With these tips, you can go into a wedding boutique and know exactly what’s right for him. You’ll make it easier for him to narrow down his choices and enjoy his wedding outfit. Taking care of him before the wedding at a great, full-service wedding boutique is just part of being a caring girlfriend. When you put on your gorgeous wedding dress and see him waiting for you at the altar, you’ll know your hard work was well worth the effort.