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7 things to remember when announcing your engagement

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Your Prince Charming has finally asked you the big question—and you said “Yes!” Congratulations! It is really exciting, isn’t it?

We know that you just can’t wait to break this news to the rest of the world! And you deserve to let everyone know. But, just take a minute before you change your relationship status on Facebook, and click save! Or before you tweet it to the world or post it in your friend circle on FB. There are certain basic etiquette rules to follow where an engagement is concerned. Let us take a look at what they are.

Family deserves to know first

Unless you are in an unusual situation where family doesn’t really count, they should be the first people that you should share the news with. There is nothing happier than telling it to your parents in person and watching their reaction to the news. If your partner is a true Prince Charming, it is likely that he has already asked for your parent’s blessings prior to proposing. In that case, this may come as expected. Nevertheless, they deserve to know first. If they live far away, break the news to them through a phone call or better, in a video chat. Whether you do it alone, or with your partner, depends on how you think your parents are likely to react to the news. You can also pass the news to the groom’s family first, if that is what you prefer. The only exception to telling your parents is when it is a second marriage and you have children. In this case, they deserve to be the first to know, whether they are young or grown up. You should also share this news with your ex-spouse, so they can help your children in accepting the news. Do not involve your fiancé when you talk to your children about this, so they can react naturally to the news.

Your close friends and family should know before the rest of the world does

As tempted as you may be to make the big announcement to the world, it is only appropriate that the most important people in your life get the exclusive first. News travels fast. So, don’t be surprised if your grandmother is offended because she came to know of your engagement through a friend, who found the news on your social media network. This will always be disappointing, even if you were planning to personally meet her to share the good news. Pick up the phone and call up all those who are really close to you. This should include your siblings, close relatives and close friends. Or message them personally. It won’t take long for them to acknowledge it. Once you’ve personally conveyed it to your dearest ones, don’t hesitate to scream from the rooftops! Or as is the current trend, announce it on social media.

If hosting a surprise engagement party, make sure all those who personally deserve to know are invited

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Some couples decide to break the big news to friends and family at an engagement party. In other cases, it is the parents who want to celebrate the engagement by throwing a party for the couple, when they announce the news to everyone. Engagement parties are not customary, and whether you have one or not is up to your discretion. However, if this is how you intend to break the news, plan your guest list well. This is a very special occasion, and all those who personally deserve to know should be invited. Another factor to keep in mind is that, anyone who is invited to the party, also gets an invitation to the wedding. This is basic etiquette.

Other ways to announce are equally good

If you aren’t so fond of the idea of an engagement party, there are other traditional ways of informing everyone, albeit in a proper and personal way. One of the oldest, yet one of the most popular methods is through an engagement announcement in the newspaper. This task is traditionally undertaken by the bride’s parents. Or, you can consider doing it yourself. The announcement may be accompanied by a photo. So, it gives you a good opportunity to use the pictures from your engagement photo shoot. You can find out more details on how to do this in the right format, at this article on the Bridal Guide.  Older relatives may appreciate if your parents personally tell them the news over telephone, or write to them. You can also host an engagement party, where you inform the invitees that you are engaged right when you invite them. It isn’t unusual to set up a registry prior to the party, as at least some guests will want to gift you on this occasion. Make sure that you have items of a smaller budget on your registry, so they do not have trouble finding a reasonably priced option.

Save-the-date cards are a great way to make the announcement

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Save-the-date cards are an ideal way to share the news with both your close associates and those who you think should know that you are engaged. If you have already finalized your wedding date, save-the-dates will give your wedding guests enough notice to begin planning their availability. There are many beautiful card options on our store at Best for Bride. We suggest that you take a look at this link here, so you can pick one that appeals to you. If you already have a specific idea of your wedding colors and patterns, you can search for one that matches the tone of the wedding. This will offer your guests a sneak peek into what they can expect at the wedding. If you still haven’t reached that phase, it is perfectly acceptable to email or send the good news to through snail mail. This will help you to share it promptly, and while you are most excited, and they will appreciate your gesture of involving them in your joy.

Let your casual acquaintances also know

There is no reason you should keep your engagement under wraps from anyone other than your immediate family and friends. Share the news on social media, but after you have informed all your closer acquaintances personally. After all, you deserve to bask in all the attention that you will get on this special occasion. There are many creative ways to make this announcement. So, if your soon-to-be-husband blew you off with a surprising proposal, this is your chance to be impressive with your creativity and stun him. If you have trouble coming up with how to do this with style, visit this article on the wedding party app blog for plenty of inspiration. We quite love the champagne idea; it is a great way to make that celebratory champagne work its way towards a beautiful announcement. And, as the article suggests, staging a photo shoot may seem too time-consuming. However, it is the perfect way to buy you that time to first announce the news to all those closer to you, and wow the world with how you break this important news, when the time is just right.

In all cases, put some thought into it

All you are concerned with is just telling the world that you have taken the big step in your relationship, right? Wrong! While you may just want to spill the news now, remember that how you do it will seem important, when you think back on it later.

Whether you do it in writing, over the phone or on social media, how you do it will seem relevant to you later. Even if you don’t want to adhere to traditional etiquette in this matter, make sure that your engagement announcement receives the due importance it deserves, by communicating it with interest and enthusiasm. It may be on an anniversary in the future that you scroll back to your social media announcement, and look at how special it seemed at the time. You do not want to regret how careless and casual you sounded. Just a “We’re engaged!!” can be so boring. So, do it better and it will be another wonderful page in your memories.

Now that we know what you should remember when announcing your engagement, let us also look at the ugly part of the whole thing—the likely mistakes to avoid! Yes, there is such a thing as a terrible announcement that people can roll their eyes at or even disapprove. You do not want that to happen to you. So, here are some ways in which you should avoid spreading the breaking news about this big event in your life.

  • Never ever break it at another person’s celebration

You may be super-thrilled about that big solid rock on your finger, and can’t wait to show it off. So, create an occasion for it, when you will proudly announce the news. Don’t use another gathering as the chance to bring it out into the open. It is very rude if you decide to share this news at another celebration, like a friend’s birthday, anniversary or any other important ceremony, for that matter. It is stealing attention from the person who hosts the celebration, and you are wrong in doing so. If someone you know discusses this on the day, you can disclose the fact but keep the discussion to a minimum and hold off other details for later.

  • By beating around the bush and expecting people to get the drift

You may think that sending out cryptic messages and having people ask you about what is going on is cute and exciting—not always! While those who are actually close to you may catch the drift and ask you what is going on, remember that everyone including your colleagues and friends from an other life read this stuff. Not all may be equally curious, and it can easily be overlooked. Worse is the fact that they may not appreciate all this drama. So, a straightforward and clear message is the way to go.

  • Showing off

You may have an exemplary ring, which your fiancé spent a fortune on. Or, you may be engaged to the hottest guy on the planet. Nevertheless, nobody will appreciate you bragging about it. Let the ring speak for itself, and let the girls feel jealous of the handsome hunk you call your own. You don’t have to advertise it for attention. That just makes you sound like you won a lottery, and don’t deserve what you have. So, please curb the enthusiasm to discuss the carat and cost of your ring, unless you are specifically asked for it.

  • Don’t pick the wrong time to make the announcement

It is never a good idea to break the news to someone when they are going through a difficult patch or have heard some bad news. This is disrespectful. As excited as you may be about the great thing that just happened in your life, it would be best to be empathetic and postpone your engagement announcement till they are better prepared to take it in. Whether this is your close friend who just broke up with her boyfriend of forever, or someone who has lost a dear one, keep the news to yourself till they come to terms with their grief. Trust us, they will not feel bad that you didn’t share the news immediately, once they know why!

So, as you mark the start of your sweet life story, make sure to do it right and all those beside you will be happy.

Somebody once said “Engagement marks the end of a whirlwind romance and the beginning of an eternal love story.” Here is all happiness and joy to you as you begin your life together. And for everything that you need for your spectacular and love-filled wedding day, visit us at Best for Bride. From wedding dresses, to bridesmaids dresses, accessories, cakes, invitations and wedding favors, we have everything you need for your big day in one place. Partner with us as you begin planning your wedding, and we will make sure you have the best experience you can possibly get.

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For the bride who loves color—10 ways to add interesting pops of colors to your wedding

White and weddings are synonymous—the bride in a white gown, white shoes, white cakes, white seating arrangements… This may work for many brides, but there are also those who genuinely love color and feel stifled by the stark whiteness that dominates most weddings. Nevertheless, they do not want to play with too much color, as it can quickly overpower the entire setting, and make it just another party. Or, it may be that they do not want to disappoint their families and friends who expect them to stick to the standard white wedding style.

For those of you who think and dream in colors, here are some practical ideas to add vibrant pops of brilliant shades into your wedding. From bright bouquets to colorful dresses and vividly colored wedding cakes, we have you covered in every way. So, read on and find out which of these ideas you will love to add to your wedding.

A bright pop of color through with groom’s tie and bridal bouquet

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We love how this couple used the same fiery red in the bridal bouquet and the groom’s tie to inject a strong dose of rich color into their outfits. Notice how the brilliance of the red forms a striking contrast with the stark white of the bridal gown. There are few other colors that can create an impact as strong as red. And the brighter, the more attractive it is. Purple, emerald and orange are some of the other colors that can create a similar effect. I also found this interesting idea of matching ties to shoes on this article at Buzzfeed, where the groom matched his orange tie to equally orange shoes. Not an idea for the faint at heart, though!

Slip into a pair of bright heels

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Gone are the days when the bride had to choose white shoes to get her outfit right. A pair of brightly colored shoes will be like a little secret hidden in plain sight. This is a perfect choice for the bride who has that tiny rebellious streak, but doesn’t want to defy tradition entirely. It is mysterious and interesting, as little pops of color make short appearances when your dainty feet show as your dress hemline is slightly displaced. Or, if you are daring enough, you could even wear a bright pair of sneakers under your wedding gown. You may already have observed that brides who choose shorter hemlines and dresses for classic vintage wedding themes often choose colorful shoes. Another trending favorite where adding color to shoes is concerned, is to simply wear a shoe with a colored sole. Nobody will be complaining that way, yet you have an unobtrusive but satisfying option to add color to your ensemble.

Think of colorful accessories or a creatively designed wedding dress If you are wary of wearing anything other than white at your wedding, how about adding your favorite color to your main outfit through a brightly colored belt, sash or underskirt. It doesn’t have to be the main feature, but will still be noticeable and can add a signature style to your overall look. You could also look at wedding dresses with a colored motif or one in white with colorful prints or appliques over it, to incorporate a little color into your look, but without excess. Here is a wedding dress that looks like any classic wedding dress from the front, but features a band of red silk that starts at the back of the strapless corset and continues into the train.

Wear a bright flower crown

It isn’t unusual to find beautiful brides playing with elements of nature to add color to their attires. Flower crowns have an unbeatable charm, and it is almost as though the bride is blessed with nature’s bounty and is embraced in it’s beauty. Bright flower crowns, whether big or small are packed with power to create a colorful impact. Here the bride has played with soft and subtle pinks in her brilliant flower crown. Doesn’t she look simply divine in it? Perfect for an outdoor wedding or a destination wedding, this is one choice that every bride should consider. After all, it is not every day that you can walk around wearing a flower crown, feeling like a princess!

Weave colorful flowers into your hairstyle

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Now, if you don’t feel comfortable in a flower crown, you can always weave flowers into your hairdo and get the desired pop of color that way. If your hairstyle involves braids or curls, you can add tiny flowers like button roses into them. Or for serious impact, consider adding two or three signature blooms into your hair in a single location. This will add more emphasis to the color and create a striking effect, as the vivid colors cannot be missed. This article on Xovian.com offers some insight into how to choose the right flowers and getting your look right. I like the author’s idea of trying out unusual flowers like ranunculus, instead of the tried and tested roses and lilies (read boring!) There is no compulsion that you should go for natural flowers, you can find authentic looking faux flowers as well, and they may in some cases work better than the real ones.

Bold and beautiful bouquets

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The easiest way to inject color into your wedding outfit without going overboard with it, is through your bridal bouquet. You can choose the brightest colors you come across, and still not look too loud, when you limit them to your bouquet. It can also be done in moderation for a pleasant and welcoming feel. A monochromatic bouquet in a bright color usually has a splendid impact. Since all the flowers used will be the same color and relatively of the same size as well, it will look elegant and the color will be a welcome style element. You can also use a composite bouquet, where a single large flower is crafted out of individual petals of various flowers. Although a little expensive, it is a fantastic way to create impact with your floral bouquet. If you want to learn more about this unique bouquet idea, I suggest you watch this video by J and Cather, that will tell you everything you need to know about it.

Colorful jewelry
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A fantastic way to add a pop of color that is immediately noticeable, is to choose colorful jewelry for your big day. You have plenty of options to consider, based on the style of wedding and your preferences. Colored gemstones with polished finishes and set in silver or gold can look elegant and stunning. For once, skip the traditional diamond, pearls and white crystals and opt for colors like turquoise, garnet, emerald, sapphire or ruby. These will in fact be even more attractive and can make you feel unique and attractive. For a casual vibe, you can go with uncut and natural looking stones. You can even consider necklaces made from shells for a beach wedding.

Colorful bridesmaids

 

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Your bridesmaids are a valuable addition to your wedding pictures, as they will be featured everywhere. So, why not consider dressing them up in deep and exciting colors to make the overall wedding setting more fun? You can choose any color you want when you go with colorful bridesmaids. Or, even work with the mix and match trend to further spice up the colors at your wedding. This option will not only make each of your bridesmaids feel unique, it will also make your wedding party be stylish and beautiful when they all come together. You can read more about how to do this on this previous article of ours. Another option that you may like to consider is to keep your bridesmaids looks similar, but add color through their accessories. Here, you can mix and match colors and assign different colors for each of your bridesmaids. The picture here should give you a good idea of how this would work.

Colored wedding cake

The white wedding cake may be classic, but it can always give way to a bolder and fashionable choice. One thing we can keep is the white base, and add colorful designs and accessories on it to create an attractive and appealing dessert that will be the highlight of your dessert table. Now, if you are the bride who wants to go with color all the way, don’t hesitate to get a big and bright wedding cake with all the colors of your wedding palette, added to it tastefully. We also find the option of having alternating colored and white tiers very attractive. Work with your baker to find a design that brings out the colors you have in mind in the most festive way, in the form of a fabulous wedding cake that the guests at your wedding will feast their eyes on.

Have a colorful dessert bar

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Everyone loves to indulge in sweet desserts, and with so many options in creating colorful desserts, this is a brilliant way to add color to your wedding day. Go all the way with color, and use an assortment of desserts to make your sweet feast tempting. Candy and sweets in clear containers, cupcakes with colored frosting and rows of macaroons, chocolates, pies, cakes, fruit desserts and tarts can make the entire setting festive. Accessories like colored platters, picture frames and interesting messages can add more color as well. The same can be accomplished with the drinks counter as well. Consider displaying colored mixers with brilliant mixing sticks and natural pops of color with the use of lemons, olives, mint and herbs for original colors.

Colorful props and décor accessories

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Even when your wedding color palette has more neutrals than color, you can always brighten up the atmosphere by adding strong doses of color in the right places. Add them through accessories like balloons, centerpieces, table runners or even display signs. Many weddings that play with an almost all-white palette look several times more attractive, with a few pleasant additions like colorful napkins or wedding stationery in bright colors. When set against a neutral background, they look even more attractive and the color usually has stronger impact this way. Buntings, displays, sign boards and backdrops are all ways to bring color into your setting. Don’t forget to dress up the aisle and altar also with splashes of color.

Confetti here, there and everywhere

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A quick and inexpensive way to add color to any setting is to add some confetti. In fact, confetti is a huge hit among brides today, as it is fun, exciting and easy to incorporate. Whether you feel you need to add some color to the tables or want to liven up the aisle, confetti can quickly come to your rescue. It is also a trend to have the couple showered in confetti after the ceremony, and is a wonderful way to celebrate your union with a special dose of color.

So tell us, which of these ideas will you be using at your wedding?

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How to Involve your Groom in Wedding Planning

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We all have a general idea that the bride handles most of the responsibility of planning the wedding, while the groom plays a supporting role. After all, it is always the bride who is super-excited about the wedding, and takes it upon herself to handle the lion’s share of the tasks. But remember, this is not a wedding rule set in stone.

If you want your groom to also be just as interested and involved, here is how you can include him in planning and making your dream wedding a reality.

Discuss your concerns and worries open-heartedly

The best way to spark your groom’s interest in your wedding is to discuss most, if not all aspects of the wedding with him. If there are certain issues you have trouble with, run it by your groom. He may have suggestions to solve it, or help you find a workaround that you hadn’t thought of.

Give your groom a say

Many grooms often feel side-lined and that their brides want them out of the way when planning the wedding. It isn’t unusual, as brides have been dreaming of this day from the time they were little girls. They usually turn to their friends or sisters, who are just as excited about it as they are. So, they go to them for suggestions and advice, instead of asking their groom. If you have been doing this all along, remember that it is your fiance’s wedding too. He will also have opinions and ideas. So, set aside time to ask him for inputs, opinions and suggestions and accommodate them when making your wedding plans.

Give him his share of duties to handle

Encourage your groom to be involved in the wedding planning by asking him what responsibilities he would like to handle. Men usually enjoy planning the wedding music, so give him this task. Whatever be the responsibility you hand over, leave it to him. Don’t micromanage or pester him with details, as this will only kill his enthusiasm. If he has creative ideas, value them. This will make your wedding more interesting for both of you.

Don’t involve him in everything, and don’t frustrate him for his lack of interest

Unlike women, men are usually not bothered with the finer details of weddings. So, don’t be upset if your groom doesn’t share your enthusiasm in deciding between peach and pink for your wedding color palette. Identify what he is interested in, and only involve him in tasks that he should be doing or will enjoy handling. Don’t overwhelm him by pushing him, instead take it easy and he will not feel overwhelmed.

Take a time-out from your wedding planning once in a while, and don’t bring it to the level that all your time together is spent talking about the wedding. Remember that the main reason you are getting married is to celebrate your love for each other. So, don’t lose that excitement in all the wedding planning frenzy.

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