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A few things to remember before you hire family or friends as wedding vendors

 

Is your close friend a fantastic photographer? Or maybe you have a cousin who is a florist. Are you considering hiring them for your wedding. It could be because they offered to do the job or you think you can get it done for for less this way, than when you hire a professional. While this may seem the easiest way to go about it, it needn’t work out well in all cases. Sometimes, it is better you pay extra and hire a professional for the job instead.

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Let us look at why you should think well before you hire friends or family for your wedding.

Your friend may not be as good as you expect

You may want to give your friend some business by hiring him/her for your wedding. But do so only if you know how good they are at it. If they haven’t worked at a wedding before or aren’t as good as they say they are, you will be making a big mistake. Your friend or relative may be super nice, and may have convinced you that they are capable of the job. However, you wouldn’t know unless you saw their wedding portfolio, or have actually seen how well they do their business.

They may not execute your ideas perfectly as a professional would

When you hire a friend for your wedding, it is difficult to be assertive with what you want. Your friend may stick to what they think is best and not go with your original ideas. When it is someone you do not know personally you can usually switch to a different vendor if your ideas clash. But when it is a friend, this will strain your relationship and simply create an unnecessary rift.

With no contract, you are taking a huge risk

One thing that confirms you will have the required service from a vendor, is the service contract you sign. When you entrust the job to a relative or friend, it is unlikely that there will be any contract involved. Imagine what you will do if your friend decides to cancel at the last minute! You will be left without any back-up plan, and there couldn’t be a bigger disaster. On the other hand, most professionals will be prepared for unforeseen circumstances, and will arrange an alternative if they are forced to cancel for any reason.

Your friend will be occupied with their job instead of enjoying your wedding

Wouldn’t you prefer that your friend enjoys your wedding instead of worrying about the service they have to provide? If you do, you won’t have to think twice about hiring a professional for the job.

You now know what to expect and what could go wrong unless you make an informed decision. Nevertheless, remember that each situation is difficult and sometimes you may get a better when you hire a friend. Just think your decision through and go with it only if you are certain that your friend is reliable, capable and will give you what you want.

For more wedding advice and tips,visit us at Best for Bride.

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Roles for children at your wedding

Many couples choose not to invite children to their wedding. However, there are other couples who not only choose to invite children to their wedding, but also look forward to including them in the ceremony.

Let us face it, having children in the ceremony makes it all the more pleasant and interesting. So, if you want your child or other children from your family involved in your wedding, here are some ideas on how you can have them participate.

Roles for very young girls and little boys

Flower girls are the most obvious role little girls can take care of. Choose their attire to either match the pattern or style of your wedding dress, or so it goes well with the bridesmaids dresses. Since your flower girls will usually be very young children, aged 6 years or younger, it is good if you stick to a dress that is knee-length or calf-length. Keep it simple and manageable, as you cannot expect a little girl to sit still for long and have her dress stay crisp and clean for much time.

If your wedding dress has a long train, you can also have one or two little girls as your train bearers as you glide down the aisle. Just make sure they are capable of handling their role and have them practice their act with you, before the wedding day.

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Little boys can be ring bearers and the cutest way to dress them up is in a suit that matches the groom’s. Discuss with the parents to make sure that the children will be comfortable wearing the attire you choose, or you will have them fiddling and complaining, instead of being cheerful and excited.

Roles for older girls and boys

Girls who are ten years or older can be a part of your wedding party as junior bridesmaids. While they needn’t dress up exactly like the rest of the bridal party, make sure that the color and pattern of their dress matches the wedding color theme.

Boys of this age group can be junior groomsmen or ushers. They can also hand out programs or be in charge of the guest book. Plan their role based on the personality of the child involved and whether they would be fine with performing the tasks you want them to.

While you can expect older children to behave and not create a scene at your wedding, you cannot always say the same of younger children. Unless they are familiar with such formal occasions, you have to be prepared for last-minute tantrums and tears. Before you decide on including children in your ceremony, make sure you can take this in your stride, should the situation arise. Talk to the parents and find out how you can make their children comfortable.

If parents are bridesmaids or ushers, you can have the younger children complete their role and then join their parents on the stage. Else, have them directed to the front row, where they can sit for the rest of the ceremony and not create distractions.

With a little luck and planning, everything should go smoothly and the children will fondly remember you for honoring them with a role at your wedding. For more wedding day tips and advice, visit us on Best for Bride.