One of the most important things about wedding planning is ensuring a good wedding guest experience. Although the couple is the most important people on their wedding day, the event will not be a success without the co-operation of the guests at it.
Certain details matter more than others. This checklist will help you identify what will be remembered and forgotten by your wedding guests. Of the various aspects we discuss below, you may consider some of the more important than others. In fact, there is always a gray area that some people notice while others skip. So this is up to you to identify and fix.
Those That Are Soon Forgotten, Because They Weren’t Worth Remembering
Wedding Invitation Stationery
This is one detail that you needn’t lose sleep over or splurge too much money on. Whether you choose to amaze your guests with a stunning wedding invitation or keep it basic, the same purpose is served. Although your invitations give your guests the first idea of your wedding, they will only use it to find what they must know about your wedding. So, choose a good-looking invitation and ensure it contains relevant information about the venue, time and date. Don’t worry about the quality of paper stock or ornamentation. Instead, take a look at this checklist on Spruce to learn about the basic information that every invitation should have.
How Special or Expensive The Linens Were
Just like a beautiful invitation is just a beautiful invitation, good-looking tablescapes are just that. Every bride and groom wish to have a beautiful wedding. All the elements you choose for your décor are essential for this. However, quality linens can be costly, even when you rent them. As long as they are clean and crisp, we are sure none of your guests will want to know the details. It won’t matter whether your linens are made of curtain panels from thrift stores or sewn-up bed sheets. Since no one else is likely to notice, investing that money in something more noticeable is better.
A Super Gorgeous Cake
I agree that the reveal of your wedding cake is an all-important moment. A breathtaking cake is an amazing sight. Nevertheless, spending a fortune on a gigantic cake with intricate details isn’t a great idea. Although your guests will be awed by its magnificence at the moment, it is unlikely that they will remember much of the details later. It is also good to remember that even the prettiest cake will quickly lose its charm if it doesn’t taste good. So focus on how the cake tastes instead of how it looks. Your guests are then more likely to remember the cake.
The Guest Book
Guest books and creative alternatives for it may sound interesting. However, think clearly about whether it really makes a difference to your guests? Also, imagine how often you are likely to use it in the future. You can, of course, use it as a keepsake. But I am sure you will have other things for the purpose. For example, your wedding album will have enough pictures to tell you who all attended your wedding. And amidst the fun of the day, it is unlikely your guests will pay attention to the beautiful guest book. They may sign in but not be in the mood to pore over the pretty details in it. So, save yourself the trouble and keep it simple or eliminate it.
The Bouquet Toss And Garter Toss
Although a tradition at weddings, the bouquet toss and garter toss are two events that you can easily eliminate from your wedding timeline, it is unlikely that your guests will miss this part of the day. You can then hold on to your bouquet and preserve it or have it turn into a wedding day keepsake. As for the garter toss, let’s face it. Not everyone really looks forward to seeing this bridal garment fly through the air or jump to catch it.
Are you struggling with the choice between daisies and baby breath for your décor and bouquets? Well, hear this then! Half your guests are least bothered about what flowers you choose. A few years later, all that matters will be that the floral décor and accessories look beautiful, not what they contained. Since flowers can be costly, consider this a sign to take it easy. Don’t use a huge chunk of your wedding budget on flowers that will last no more than a day. Your guests won’t mind, I am sure!
Few wedding favours tempting guests to save and use again. Pretty packaging is usually expensive and ultimately is tossed away. Edible favours are the only exception, for your guests won’t really mind the after-party treat to enjoy at leisure. Hence, find a wedding favour with either a utilitarian aspect or make sure it is edible. Unless you do, it will likely be thrown away or confined to the depths of a closet. So, don’t sweat over this detail and pick a reasonably priced gift and will be well-received.
The Things That Aren’t So Easy To Forget
A Wonderful Venue
The venue is one of the most important things that can make or break a wedding. The right venue will play up your décor, create the right ambiance for the theme and be easy to decorate. Hence you must pick the right venue for your wedding day. It should easily accommodate all your guests, be easy to reach and have the necessary facilities for your guests. Whether indoors or outdoors, the venue should be the right choice for the weather at the time of your wedding. So, aim for a wonderful venue that ticks all the above conditions, and your guests will remember it forever.
A Beautiful Ceremony
Even in this digital age, beautiful wedding ceremonies churn up emotions and become memorable. So, plan your wedding ceremony carefully, with due attention to detail. Keep it short and sweet. Remember that you can spoil the excitement of the moment with a ceremony that drags on and on forever. Instead, have the wedding altar decorated with care, so it is a feast for the eyes. All your guests will then look forward to making strong memories of the special moment you are married.
Half your guests may not recognize whether you wear a ball gown or mermaid dress. Nor will they pay attention to your makeup and accessories. However, this doesn’t mean you can take the dress aspect lightly. The image of a bride in her beautiful wedding dress creates a strong impact. It is instantly etched into the onlooker’s memories. So, settle only for a dress that looks amazing and reflects who you are as a person. This will enhance your best features. It will also make sure you are remembered as a lovely bride on the most special day in your life.
A Fantastic Meal
Food is one of the most important things that guests look forward to at a wedding. Not only is a good meal the best way to impress your guests, but it is also an option you can nail without much trouble. Plan your menu so that the dishes are enticing and appeal to most of your guests. Also, make sure there is sufficient quantity to fill them up. Send your guests home happy, and the excellent meal you served at your wedding will be the talk of the town in many years to come. You may like to look at some excellent advice on choosing your wedding menu is available here, on the Martha Stewart website.
The Drinks to Celebrate The Day
Many couples try to cut down their wedding day expenses by reducing the drinks budget. Unfortunately, weddings and booze are inseparable. Even limited quantities of booze are acceptable, as long as it is available and free. Nothing spoils a guest’s wedding experience, like when they have to pay for their own drinks. Don’t forego the bar or ask your guests to pay for their drinks. Instead, take a look at these ideas on the Borrowed and Blue website to quench the thirst of your guests for less.
The Cute Details of The Day
I mentioned earlier that your guests are not likely to pay attention to the umpteen number of details you set up at your wedding. However, there is an exception. A few cute, unusual or quirky details can easily capture their attention and stay in their memories. These little details can range from customized signs to pretty buntings and personalized drinks. At least some of your guests will gush over these details and consider these ideas of yours brilliant.
How Good The Entertainment Was
Good entertainment is crucial to the success of your wedding party. Not all your guests may look forward to dancing at your wedding. Nevertheless, don’t disappoint those who do by letting your entertainment be an after-thought. There are definite benefits to choosing either a band or a DJ. From budgetary constraints to the songs you prefer, you should consider various factors to choose between a band and a DJ. More information to help you make the right choice is available in this article on The Knot.
Other details aside, your behaviour on the day will greatly impact the guest experience. Your guests have travelled from far and wide to attend your special event. They expect you to welcome and acknowledge their presence. It will be a terrible disappointment if you are aloof and too engrossed in yourselves. This will certainly remain in their memories. So, don’t make this dire mistake. Instead, extend a hearty welcome to your guests, chat with them at some point of the day and thank them for making it. Follow up with a note of thanks for their presence and their gifts. They will greatly appreciate this.
How Long They Can Party
What is the point of planning an amazing party if you wind up while the guests have just started having fun? The wedding guest experience has a close link to the enjoyment they have on the day. And the longer the party goes on with amazing entertainment, the better they will remember the event. So, plan your party to give them enough time to have fun. Cut the ceremony short, but don’t compromise on the time allotted for the reception. Keep this factor in mind when choosing your entertainment and venue.
Tell us which of these factors are most important and least important to you in your wedding planning?
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Summary of Wedding Planning: Focus on What Really Matters
Wedding Invitation Stationery:
- Good-looking invitation with relevant information about venue, time, and date
- No need to worry about paper quality or ornamentation
- Checklist for basic information on Spruce
- Clean and crisp linens are all that matters
- No need to spend much money on high-quality linens
- The cake’s taste is more important than its looks
- Guests are more likely to remember a delicious cake
- Not a necessary item, as your wedding album will have enough pictures
- Guests may sign in, but not focus on the details
- Can save the trouble and eliminate or keep it simple
Bouquet Toss and Garter Toss:
- Not a necessary part of the wedding, can be eliminated
- Bouquet can be preserved as a keepsake
Bridal Bouquets and Flowers:
- Half the guests won’t care about the flower choices
- Flowers will only last a day, so don’t use a large budget for it
- Edible favors are the only exception
- Pick a reasonably priced gift that is well-received
- Non-edible or non-utilitarian favors may be thrown away
Important to Remember:
- A wonderful venue is important for the success of the wedding
- Venue should accommodate guests, easy to reach, and have necessary facilities
- A beautiful ceremony is still memorable in this digital age
- Plan a short and sweet ceremony with attention to detail
- Decorate the altar to make it a feast for the eyes
FAQ – Wedding Guests
What are the things that wedding guests despise?
Taking a seat at a dingy table. Half of the visitors questioned said they despise being placed at a table with someone they don’t know. Or being placed at the children’s table because you’re the last cousin who isn’t married and might or might not be bringing a date.
Do wedding favours matter to your guests?
If you’ve ever considered skipping wedding favours, now is the time! Most favours don’t make it home with visitors, but I assure you’ll be glad you did. With cocktails, dinner, and desserts, you’ve already taken care of your guests.
Is it OK to invite someone to a bridal shower but not the wedding?
The quick answer is that you should not invite anyone who will not be invited to the wedding to your shower. Your shower is a small gathering of some of the most important ladies (and men, if you like), and anybody who makes the cut for your shower should also be close enough to receive a wedding invitation.
How can you gracefully say no plus one?
If your guest just puts a plus-one on their RSVP card, you must approach it diplomatically. Call them and politely inform them that their plus-one is unable to attend. Give an explanation, such as a budget or a lack of room, or link back to your firm regulations to assure them that this is the situation for everyone.
What are the most important considerations for wedding guests?
Guests are particularly concerned about the timeliness of events. Unhappy guests result from starting your wedding ceremony late or listing an earlier than planned start time to avoid any late arrivals. To stay on schedule the morning of your wedding, allow additional time for hair and makeup, pictures, and transport.
4 thoughts on “What Your Guests Will Remember and Quickly Forget About Your Wedding”
I dont agree with having a long party time. In my 40 years experience this is a license to have things go off the rails with the extra time for guests to guzzle booze. Keep the party light and friendly and fun. Drink a little, dance a lot is a great mix for a memorable wedding.Marathon drinking at any wedding is a recipe for disaster.
I am fine with the things they might forget. My plan is to have such a great party, there is little for them to forget at all. Each part of the day should be planned and executed to a “T” in order to build the best memories.
This is an excellent post filled with information that you should keep in mind when planning your wedding day. This way, you can match these things up with what you have planned for the day for yourself and your guests.
James, I think so too. Everything should be on schedule. If it is planned to have fun for 5 hours, it should be like this. Even when the guests demand to continue. And when everybody is having fun and doesn’t want to leave the wedding party. But…As practice shows, then everything ends with tumultuous drinking of alcohol…Total chaos. It is better to finish on a positive note without “guests’ fights”