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What your guests will remember and quickly forget about your wedding

One of the most important things about wedding planning is ensuring a good wedding guest experience. Although the couple are the most important people on their wedding day, the event will not be a success without the co-operation of the guests at it.

Certain details matter more than others. This checklist will help you identify what will be remembered and forgotten by your wedding guests. Of the various aspects we discuss below, you may consider some of them more important than others. In fact, there is always a gray area, that some people notice while others skip. So this is up to you to identify and fix.

Those that are soon forgotten, because they weren’t worth remembering

1.Wedding invitation stationery

This is one detail that you needn’t lose sleep over or splurge too much money on. Whether you choose to amaze your guests with a stunning wedding invitation or keep it basic, the same purpose is served. Although your invitations give your guests the first idea of your wedding, they will only use it to find what they must know about your wedding. So, choose a good-looking invitation and make sure it contains relevant information about the venue, time and date. Don’t worry about the quality of paper stock or ornamentation. Take a look at this checklist on the Spruce to learn about the basic information that every invitation should have.

2.How special or expensive the linens were

Just like a beautiful invitation is just a beautiful invitation, good looking tablescapes are just that. Every bride and groom wishes to have a beautiful wedding. All the elements you choose for your décor are very important for this. However, quality linens can be very expensive, even when you rent them. As long as they are clean and crisp, we are sure none of your guests will want to know the details. It won’t matter whether your linens are made of curtain panels from thrift stores or sewn up bed sheets. Since no one else is likely to notice, it is better to invest that money in something more noticeable.

3.A super-gorgeous cake

I agree that the reveal of your wedding cake is an all-important moment. A breathtaking cake is an amazing sight. Nevertheless, spending a fortune on a gigantic cake with intricate details isn’t a great idea. Although your guests will be awed by the magnificence of it at the moment, it is unlikely that they will remember much of the details later. It is also good to remember that even the prettiest cake will quickly lose it’s charm if it doesn’t taste good. So focus on how the cake tastes instead of how it looks. Your guests are then more likely to remember the cake.

4.The guest book

Guest books and creative alternatives for it may sound interesting. However, think clearly of whether it really make a difference to your guests? Also imagine how often you are likely to use it in the future. You can of course use it as a keepsake. But I am sure you will have other things for the purpose. Your wedding album will have enough pictures to tell you who all attended your wedding. And amidst the fun of the day, it is unlikely your guests will pay attention to the beautiful guest book. They may sign in it, but not be in the mood to pore over the pretty details in it. So, save yourself the trouble and keep it simple or eliminate it altogether.

5.The bouquet toss and garter toss

Although a tradition at weddings, the bouquet toss and garter toss are two events that you can easily eliminate from your wedding timeline. It is unlikely that your guests will miss this part of the day. You can then hold on to your bouquet and preserve it or have it turn it into a wedding day keepsake. Take a look at this previous article to find out how you can do this. As for the garter toss, let’s face it. Not everyone really looks forward to seeing this bridal garment fly through the air or jump to catch it.

6.The flowers

Are you struggling with the choice between daisies and baby breath for your décor and bouquets? Well, hear this then! Half your guests are least bothered about what flowers you choose. Few years from now, all that matters will be that the floral décor and accessories look beautiful; not what it contained. Since flowers can be really expensive, consider this a sign to take it easy. Don’t use a huge chunk of your wedding budget on flowers that will last no more than a day. Your guests won’t mind, I am sure!

7.The favors

There are few wedding favors that tempt guests to save and use again. Pretty packaging is usually expensive, and ultimately is simply tossed away. Edible favors are the only exception. For your guests won’t really mind the after-party treat to enjoy at leisure. Hence, find a wedding favor with either a utilitarian aspect or make sure it is edible. Unless you do, it will likely be thrown away or confined to the depths of a closet. So, don’t sweat over this detail and just pick a gift that is reasonably priced and will be well-received.

The things that aren’t so easy to forget

1.A wonderful venue

The venue is one of the most important things that can make or break a wedding. The right venue will play up your décor, create the right ambiance for the theme and be easy to decorate. Hence it is important that you pick the right venue for your wedding day. It should easily accommodate all your guests, be easy to reach and have necessary facilities for your guests. Whether indoors or outdoors, the venue should be the right choice for the weather at the time of your wedding. So, aim for a wonderful venue that ticks all the above conditions and your guests will remember it forever.

2.A beautiful ceremony

Even in this digital age, beautiful wedding ceremonies churn up emotions and become memorable. So, plan your wedding ceremony carefully, with due attention to detail. Keep it short and sweet. Remember that you can spoil the excitement of the moment with a ceremony that drags on and on forever. Have the wedding altar decorated with care, so it is a feast for the eyes. All your guests will then look forward to making strong memories of the special moment at which you are married.

3.Well-dressed bride

Half your guests may not recognize whether you wear a ball gown or mermaid dress. Nor will they pay attention to your makeup and accessories. However this doesn’t mean you can take the dress aspect lightly. The image of a bride in her beautiful wedding dress creates a strong impact. It is instantly etched into the onlookers memories. So, settle only for a dress that looks amazing and reflects who you are as a person. This will enhance your best features. It will also make sure you are remembered as a lovely bride on the most special day in your life.

4.A fantastic meal

Food is one of the most important things that guests look forward to, at a wedding. Not only is a good meal the best way to impress your guests, it is also an option you can nail without much trouble. Plan your menu so that the dishes are enticing and appeal to most of your guests. Also make sure there is sufficient quantity to fill them up. Send your guests home happy, and the excellent meal you served at your wedding will be the talk of town in many years to come. You may like to take a look at some excellent advice on choosing your wedding menu is available here, on the Martha Stewart website. 

5.The drinks to celebrate the day

Many couples try to cut down their wedding day expenses by reducing the drinks budget. Unfortunately, weddings and booze are inseparable. Even limited quantities of booze are acceptable, as long as it is available and free. Nothing spoils a guest’s wedding experience like when they have to pay for their own drinks. Don’t forego the bar or ask your guests to pay for their drinks. Instead, take a look at these ideas on the Borrowed and Blue website to quench the thirst of your guests for less. 

6.The cute details of the day

I mentioned earlier that your guests are not likely to pay attention to the umpteen number of details you set up at your wedding. However, there is an exception. A few cute, unusual or quirky details can easily capture their attention and stay in their memories. These little details can range from customized signs to pretty buntings and personalized drinks. At least some of your guests will gush over these details, and consider these ideas of yours brilliant.

7.How good the entertainment was

Good entertainment is crucial to the success of your wedding party. Not all your guests may look forward to dancing at your wedding. Nevertheless, don’t disappoint those who do by letting your entertainment be an after-thought. There are definite benefits to choosing either a band or a DJ. From budgetary constraints to the songs that you personally prefer, you should consider various factors to make your choice between a band and DJ. More information to help you make the right choice is available in this article on the Knot

8.Your hospitality

Other details aside, your behavior on the day will greatly impact the guest experience. Your guests have traveled from far and wide to attend your special event. They expect you to welcome and acknowledge their presence. It will be a terrible disappointment if you are aloof and too engrossed in yourselves. This will certainly remain in their memories. So, don’t make this dire mistake. Extend a hearty welcome to your guests, chat with them at some point of the day and thank them for making it. Follow up with a note of thanks for their presence and their gifts. This will be greatly appreciated by them.

9.How long they can party

What is the point in planning an amazing party, if you must wind up while the guests have just started having fun? The wedding guest experience has a close link to the enjoyment they have on the day. And the longer the party goes on with amazing entertainment, the better they will remember the event. So, plan your party to give them enough time to have fun. Cut the ceremony short, but don’t compromise on the time allotted for the reception. Keep this factor in mind when choosing your entertainment and venue.

Now tell us which of these factors are most important and least important to you, in your wedding planning?

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10 things wedding guests hate most at weddings

A gloomy wedding guest fits not a wedding feast.”  -Friedrich Schiller 

Your wedding wouldn’t be the same without your guests. Although this special day in your life is a celebration of you and your partner, your guests are an irreplaceable part of the celebration. They are people who make the effort and make time to be part of your lifetime celebration. Unless they are happy and enjoy the events of the day, they will not remember your wedding fondly.

Just think of all the weddings you have attended. There will be those that you loved, and then some others. It is highly unlikely that you had fun at weddings where the guest experience was the couple’s lowest priority. After all, who could enjoy a party where they were treated as an after-thought. When you analyze things from this perspective, you will realize the importance of this factor in your wedding.

Here is our roundup of all that real guests hate most at weddings. Take note and make sure not to overlook these factors at yours.

A remote venue that is difficult to locate

In your search for a unique and unusual venue that also fits your budget, don’t forget to consider how accessible it is. Your guests may not enjoy the trek to a far-off location which is difficult to locate and reach. Although you may provide clear instructions, think of factors like how remote it is and whether they should spend a long time on the road to get there. Also, check whether it has a public transportation option.

There may be guests who aren’t comfortable driving that far. Or it may be expensive to hire a cab to drive them there. If you simply cannot avoid this condition, arrange transportation from a central point to the place. Else, arrange a reception that is within a reasonable distance and invite the majority of guests to this location instead.

A vague dress code

There is nothing like a standard wedding today. From extravagant banquet affairs to rustic loft weddings and laidback beach nuptials, every wedding is different. Thus it isn’t always easy for guests to decide what to wear to a wedding. Nobody wishes to be embarrassed about their dress choice. So, they usually look at your invitation or wedding website to make this decision.

There are many clear, fun and even clever ways to communicate this point in your invitation. There are both traditional and non-traditional ways to let your guests know what your wedding style is. From simple straightforward phrases like “Black Tie” and “Casual” to “Dress to Impress” or “Festive attire”, provide a simple phrase that explains the style clearly. Take a look at this article on the Brides website for how to word it and what each phrase refers to.

Unclear instructions

Nothing spoils fun like a lack of clear instructions. From directions to a proper seating arrangement and instructions of where the various events will be held, guests need clear instructions. Unless you provide it, they just waste time trying to figure things out by themselves. So make sure you communicate all relevant details in a clear and crisp manner. Design and format the layout of your invitation card with a checklist that cites what information your guests need.

Similarly, make sure you mention all other information on your wedding website. Add details like landmarks, traveling time to the venue, nearest public transportation destination, etc, and make things easy for them. If the ceremony and reception venue is different, provide clear directions to get to the second from the first. Similarly, don’t complicate the seating arrangement. It should be easy to understand and follow. Your guests will appreciate finding their seats easily and settle in quickly.

Long breaks between events

It is plain disrespectful to make your guests wait for long spans of time during the day. Everyone values their time. Although your guests won’t look forward to a marathon of events on the day, neither will they be excited about an event that drags on and on. So, give accurate information about timings in your wedding invitation and program. Provide the “guest arrival time” and “ceremony start time” on your invitation to clarify things. This will allow your guests to evaluate the event timeline correctly and plan accordingly.

Make sure that you, your partner, and the members of the wedding party are on time. Also, space the different events of the day without too much delay. If there are long delays, arrange entertainment or refreshments to keep your guests occupied during this gap. Discuss with your wedding planner or photographer to create an accurate timeline that is practical for both you and your guests.

Spending too much money for additional expenses

Your guests will not be happy if they must spend additional money for expenses related to your wedding. Most wedding guests dread attending weddings at venues with high parking fees. Don’t be surprised if your guests get too fidgety if your wedding day events are delayed when they are paying for parking by the hour. It is equally disappointing if you will be having a cash bar, where they have to pay for their own drinks. A limited bar or one with few options will be better received than if they should pay for their drinks.

The same applies to gift registries too. Your guests will want to get you a gift that is useful. However, they may be on a budget. When you register for items with different price ranges, they can choose one that suits their budget. Don’t be a needy couple who looks desperate for contributions from guests to make their day special. So, don’t think twice about ruling out the money dance and honeymoon jar idea!

Long boring speeches

Unless you have a small, intimate wedding, save your guests the trouble of tolerating long speeches that they barely relate to. If your wedding speeches and toasts just go on and on, it will simply bore them to death. Don’t have more than five speeches. Also, ask all speakers to limit their toasts to five minutes or less. This will not take up much time.

Let anyone else who wishes to speak at your wedding do it at the rehearsal dinner. Since that will be a smaller and contained event, it will be an apt occasion for your friends and family to speak all they want. Also, make sure that there is a mic if your reception is at a non-traditional venue. You do not want your guests to strain and struggle to understand what is being said.

Being seated with strangers

We perfectly understand that creating a seating plan for your wedding is no walk in the park. However, you should do it with care. It isn’t fun for your guests when you assign seating in such a way that they are seated with total strangers. Most dates that accompany guests end up in such situations. Unfortunately, not all of them take it well.

Although it is impossible to make perfect groups, we advise that you do not randomly create your seating plan. Try to arrange the seating in such a way that there is at least one person who everyone knows at their table. It is a good idea to discuss the seating plan with your groom, parents, and the wedding party. A group effort will yield better results and help to avoid confusion.

Photographers who get in the way

Too many photographers can ruin the entire visual experience of your wedding. Whether it is that they shoot the couple or take selfies, this simple action can spoil the calm atmosphere. When guests are too busy capturing photos on their mobile phones, it often disrupts the view of the other guests. They can also get in the way of the professional photographer and spoil their shots. If you have hired a professional photographer for your wedding, trust him to do a good job. Also, inform the rest of your guests that you do not appreciate photos being clicked during the course of events.

Convey this clearly, but not in a condescending way. There are several ways in which you can do this. Put a note in your wedding program or make an announcement prior to the wedding. You can also display signs at various places in the venue. Just make sure that there is no chance it is overlooked or missed. When you have an unplugged wedding, your photographer will be able to do a better job of capturing your wedding pictures. Take a look at this article on Glamour.com to find out how to do it efficiently. 

Loud and blaring music

You may have hired a highly energetic band for your wedding because you love their kind of music. However, it needn’t be the case with your guests. Music that deafens can really aggravate those who do not enjoy it. Be considerate and realize that there may be those who do not like the music you play at your wedding. For their benefit, keep the volume down. This will let them relax and chat or sit and watch without much difficulty.

Your guests should basically be able to talk to each other without having to scream because of the blaring background music. It is fine to occasionally raise the volume, to get the desired impact for certain song numbers. However, don’t make the mistake of maintaining the same volume throughout the evening. Your guests may rush to the washroom or out of the venue to rest their pounding heads. Most of all, this will ruin the entire day for them. Give your band or DJ a mix of songs in the playlist, so there is something that appeals to everyone there.

When the couple are totally engrossed in themselves

Nobody enjoys an event with ungracious hosts. Even when the guest count is huge, your guests expect to be treated with courtesy. So acknowledge their presence. Of course, they understand that you have a busy day and do not have time to chit-chat. However a quick hello, thank you or goodbye makes it worth their while.

If you are too busy taking photos or spending time with selected guests only, it can put off the others. After all, they made the effort to attend your wedding because they care for you. So, use the cocktail hour to mingle with your guests. Or wave hello to them when they step up to take a photograph. Treat your guests well and your wedding will be a memorable one for them as well.

Do you have any more things to add to this list? If so, do let us know through the comments section below.

Every wedding poses a unique set of challenges. Creating a great experience for your guests is just one of them. While there isn’t much we can do to help you with this, Best for Bride can help you with another equally important wedding planning task—finding the perfect wedding dress. Browse through our wedding dress collection to find a stunning variety of dresses that fit every style, weather, and wedding type. Apart from that we also feature a great collection of dresses for the wedding party. Visit the Best for Bride gallery today and begin shortlisting your favorites from our collection.

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Breaking wedding traditions: How to throw a fantastic wedding reception brunch

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More and more couples are opting for wedding receptions in the morning, in place of the traditional evening affair for various reasons. Choosing brunch instead of dinner can considerably lower the catering and venue expenses. Or it could be so they want a unique wedding twist, or even so that they can set off on their honeymoon early and enjoy more time together.

Whatever be the reason, reception brunches work well when planned and executed properly. In fact, wedding reception brunches are convenient, and your guests will enjoy the function.

Here is a quick and easy guide to getting the little details for your wedding reception brunch perfect.

Keep the atmosphere friendly instead of formal

Unlike the formal plated dinner, brunches have a casual air. This allows you to have a more intimate gathering and enjoy quality time with your guests. The ideal location for a wedding brunch is outdoors, so plan your seating to utilize the beauty of the natural setting. Outdoor wedding brunches are ideal in spring or fall, when the weather is pleasant and the beautiful landscape adds a natural charm to your wedding. Plan the décor so it works well in natural lighting, and add elements like fresh flowers or vividly colored balloons that are casual, yet colorful.

Winter brides can also benefit from reception brunches, as the evenings are usually dark and depressing and daytime is more refreshing. Consider warming up your venue with a log fire and decorating with holly and mistletoe. Add to this, an enchanting white backdrop, and you will have a fairytale wedding to remind your guests of your lifetime event.

Plan your food choices wisely

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A formal food service may seem out of place during the day. Opt for an interesting buffet instead. Include food choices that allow your guests to eat well, but not feel weighed down. The platter should include both breakfast and lunch-style dishes, so your guests can have their pick. Choose food that is great for late morning or early afternoon. Frittatas, cheeses, pancakes, pasta and sandwiches are good choices. You could also add a few exotic dishes like dimsums or chicken curry for a pleasant variation. Omelet and pancake stations, or s’more bars would be well-received and also add some action.

Don’t skip wedding cake or drinks

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Just because you are getting married in the morning, you needn’t skip the wedding cake. Choose a light flavor like lemon or vanilla, and keep it fresh and welcoming with white frosting. Or you could replace the wedding cake with wedding cake cupcakes in multiple flavors instead. Since the portions are small, your guests will be tempted to try it. You could also get creative with a dessert buffet, and give your guests a variety of treats to choose from.

For drinks consider refreshing and lighter choices like cocktails, white wine, fruit juices, scented teas and fruit smoothies. If the weather is warm, fizzy drinks infused with lemon or ginger, or yogurt smoothies would be nice.

Doesn’t all this sound romantic? If you are smitten by this idea of wedding reception brunches, go ahead with it. Don’t forget to get the perfect wedding dress for the occasion; visit us at Best for Bride to do so.