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7 things to remember when announcing your engagement

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Your Prince Charming has finally asked you the big question—and you said “Yes!” Congratulations! It is really exciting, isn’t it?

We know that you just can’t wait to break this news to the rest of the world! And you deserve to let everyone know. But, just take a minute before you change your relationship status on Facebook, and click save! Or before you tweet it to the world or post it in your friend circle on FB. There are certain basic etiquette rules to follow where an engagement is concerned. Let us take a look at what they are.

Family deserves to know first

Unless you are in an unusual situation where family doesn’t really count, they should be the first people that you should share the news with. There is nothing happier than telling it to your parents in person and watching their reaction to the news. If your partner is a true Prince Charming, it is likely that he has already asked for your parent’s blessings prior to proposing. In that case, this may come as expected. Nevertheless, they deserve to know first. If they live far away, break the news to them through a phone call or better, in a video chat. Whether you do it alone, or with your partner, depends on how you think your parents are likely to react to the news. You can also pass the news to the groom’s family first, if that is what you prefer. The only exception to telling your parents is when it is a second marriage and you have children. In this case, they deserve to be the first to know, whether they are young or grown up. You should also share this news with your ex-spouse, so they can help your children in accepting the news. Do not involve your fiancé when you talk to your children about this, so they can react naturally to the news.

Your close friends and family should know before the rest of the world does

As tempted as you may be to make the big announcement to the world, it is only appropriate that the most important people in your life get the exclusive first. News travels fast. So, don’t be surprised if your grandmother is offended because she came to know of your engagement through a friend, who found the news on your social media network. This will always be disappointing, even if you were planning to personally meet her to share the good news. Pick up the phone and call up all those who are really close to you. This should include your siblings, close relatives and close friends. Or message them personally. It won’t take long for them to acknowledge it. Once you’ve personally conveyed it to your dearest ones, don’t hesitate to scream from the rooftops! Or as is the current trend, announce it on social media.

If hosting a surprise engagement party, make sure all those who personally deserve to know are invited

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Some couples decide to break the big news to friends and family at an engagement party. In other cases, it is the parents who want to celebrate the engagement by throwing a party for the couple, when they announce the news to everyone. Engagement parties are not customary, and whether you have one or not is up to your discretion. However, if this is how you intend to break the news, plan your guest list well. This is a very special occasion, and all those who personally deserve to know should be invited. Another factor to keep in mind is that, anyone who is invited to the party, also gets an invitation to the wedding. This is basic etiquette.

Other ways to announce are equally good

If you aren’t so fond of the idea of an engagement party, there are other traditional ways of informing everyone, albeit in a proper and personal way. One of the oldest, yet one of the most popular methods is through an engagement announcement in the newspaper. This task is traditionally undertaken by the bride’s parents. Or, you can consider doing it yourself. The announcement may be accompanied by a photo. So, it gives you a good opportunity to use the pictures from your engagement photo shoot. You can find out more details on how to do this in the right format, at this article on the Bridal Guide.  Older relatives may appreciate if your parents personally tell them the news over telephone, or write to them. You can also host an engagement party, where you inform the invitees that you are engaged right when you invite them. It isn’t unusual to set up a registry prior to the party, as at least some guests will want to gift you on this occasion. Make sure that you have items of a smaller budget on your registry, so they do not have trouble finding a reasonably priced option.

Save-the-date cards are a great way to make the announcement

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Save-the-date cards are an ideal way to share the news with both your close associates and those who you think should know that you are engaged. If you have already finalized your wedding date, save-the-dates will give your wedding guests enough notice to begin planning their availability. There are many beautiful card options on our store at Best for Bride. We suggest that you take a look at this link here, so you can pick one that appeals to you. If you already have a specific idea of your wedding colors and patterns, you can search for one that matches the tone of the wedding. This will offer your guests a sneak peek into what they can expect at the wedding. If you still haven’t reached that phase, it is perfectly acceptable to email or send the good news to through snail mail. This will help you to share it promptly, and while you are most excited, and they will appreciate your gesture of involving them in your joy.

Let your casual acquaintances also know

There is no reason you should keep your engagement under wraps from anyone other than your immediate family and friends. Share the news on social media, but after you have informed all your closer acquaintances personally. After all, you deserve to bask in all the attention that you will get on this special occasion. There are many creative ways to make this announcement. So, if your soon-to-be-husband blew you off with a surprising proposal, this is your chance to be impressive with your creativity and stun him. If you have trouble coming up with how to do this with style, visit this article on the wedding party app blog for plenty of inspiration. We quite love the champagne idea; it is a great way to make that celebratory champagne work its way towards a beautiful announcement. And, as the article suggests, staging a photo shoot may seem too time-consuming. However, it is the perfect way to buy you that time to first announce the news to all those closer to you, and wow the world with how you break this important news, when the time is just right.

In all cases, put some thought into it

All you are concerned with is just telling the world that you have taken the big step in your relationship, right? Wrong! While you may just want to spill the news now, remember that how you do it will seem important, when you think back on it later.

Whether you do it in writing, over the phone or on social media, how you do it will seem relevant to you later. Even if you don’t want to adhere to traditional etiquette in this matter, make sure that your engagement announcement receives the due importance it deserves, by communicating it with interest and enthusiasm. It may be on an anniversary in the future that you scroll back to your social media announcement, and look at how special it seemed at the time. You do not want to regret how careless and casual you sounded. Just a “We’re engaged!!” can be so boring. So, do it better and it will be another wonderful page in your memories.

Now that we know what you should remember when announcing your engagement, let us also look at the ugly part of the whole thing—the likely mistakes to avoid! Yes, there is such a thing as a terrible announcement that people can roll their eyes at or even disapprove. You do not want that to happen to you. So, here are some ways in which you should avoid spreading the breaking news about this big event in your life.

  • Never ever break it at another person’s celebration

You may be super-thrilled about that big solid rock on your finger, and can’t wait to show it off. So, create an occasion for it, when you will proudly announce the news. Don’t use another gathering as the chance to bring it out into the open. It is very rude if you decide to share this news at another celebration, like a friend’s birthday, anniversary or any other important ceremony, for that matter. It is stealing attention from the person who hosts the celebration, and you are wrong in doing so. If someone you know discusses this on the day, you can disclose the fact but keep the discussion to a minimum and hold off other details for later.

  • By beating around the bush and expecting people to get the drift

You may think that sending out cryptic messages and having people ask you about what is going on is cute and exciting—not always! While those who are actually close to you may catch the drift and ask you what is going on, remember that everyone including your colleagues and friends from an other life read this stuff. Not all may be equally curious, and it can easily be overlooked. Worse is the fact that they may not appreciate all this drama. So, a straightforward and clear message is the way to go.

  • Showing off

You may have an exemplary ring, which your fiancé spent a fortune on. Or, you may be engaged to the hottest guy on the planet. Nevertheless, nobody will appreciate you bragging about it. Let the ring speak for itself, and let the girls feel jealous of the handsome hunk you call your own. You don’t have to advertise it for attention. That just makes you sound like you won a lottery, and don’t deserve what you have. So, please curb the enthusiasm to discuss the carat and cost of your ring, unless you are specifically asked for it.

  • Don’t pick the wrong time to make the announcement

It is never a good idea to break the news to someone when they are going through a difficult patch or have heard some bad news. This is disrespectful. As excited as you may be about the great thing that just happened in your life, it would be best to be empathetic and postpone your engagement announcement till they are better prepared to take it in. Whether this is your close friend who just broke up with her boyfriend of forever, or someone who has lost a dear one, keep the news to yourself till they come to terms with their grief. Trust us, they will not feel bad that you didn’t share the news immediately, once they know why!

So, as you mark the start of your sweet life story, make sure to do it right and all those beside you will be happy.

Somebody once said “Engagement marks the end of a whirlwind romance and the beginning of an eternal love story.” Here is all happiness and joy to you as you begin your life together. And for everything that you need for your spectacular and love-filled wedding day, visit us at Best for Bride. From wedding dresses, to bridesmaids dresses, accessories, cakes, invitations and wedding favors, we have everything you need for your big day in one place. Partner with us as you begin planning your wedding, and we will make sure you have the best experience you can possibly get.

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Destination Weddings: 9 things every couple should know

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Weddings in quaint European towns and the exotic Caribbean are no longer a novelty. Many brides and grooms are packing their bags, and getting married in attractive locations far away from home. Nevertheless, it is a fact that while these weddings are possible, they involve more long-distance and detailed planning than weddings near home.

It is not only the couple, but also the guests at the wedding who have to make allowances to attend a destination wedding. As it is far from home, there will be lot of things to consider. From paperwork to aero plane tickets and accommodation, there are many factors to consider.

Since these weddings involve travel, the rules and expectations are slightly different than in the case of a regular wedding. Let us find out what these are today!

1.Be prepared for a smaller and more intimate wedding

It is highly unlikely that all the people on your guest list can practically attend your wedding, when it is held far away from where they stay. If you have a large friend and family group, narrowing down your guest list can be difficult. However, it becomes necessary when you consider the expenses involved. Be reasonable with your expectations when you invite people. The entire scenario is different when you ask someone to travel for a wedding. Not everyone may have the time or the finances to make this long trip. So, when you decide to have a wedding far away, prepare to be satisfied with a small and intimate wedding with the people who matter most in your life. You can always host a reception once you are back, and include all your friends and family in it. This way, they get a chance to be involved in the wedding without having to travel. All the same, this is in no way compulsory. If you are satisfied with celebrating your wedding with just those who attended it, keep it that way.

2.Send out save-the-dates earlier than is usual

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Planning a destination wedding is complicated, and you may not be certain of all the details of the wedding till much later. Even so, you should inform your guests of your plans well in advance, so they can plan accordingly. Attending a destination wedding is comparable to planning a holiday—in terms of money involved and time off work. So, the earlier you provide information, the more convenient it will be for your guests to attend. Anywhere between 4 to 8 months before the wedding, is a good time to send your save-the-dates. Include all that you know at the time, particularly the date and location. Take care to highlight the date on the RSVP, so you can plan your final guest list and confirm the rest of the arrangements based on the number of attendees. If you are very particular about having certain people in your wedding, check their availability prior to planning the wedding date. This way, you can avoid disappointment if they have constraints that do not allow them to travel to your wedding. Once you finalize your plans, don’t delay sending out the invitations. Destination wedding invitations should be more detailed than the customary wedding invitation, as your guests need to know much more to plan and budget their trip.

3.Wedding websites are your best friend

When you plan a destination wedding, your guests will usually prefer to find out as much as they can to make their trip easier. Since a wedding invitation for what it can hold, then use your wedding website for the rest. Include anything and everything your guests should be aware of, on your wedding website. Provide links to places where they can find accommodation, the weather at the time of your wedding, any dress requirements that they should be aware of, what they should carry and transportation options they have. Also share all the details of the wedding program, so they can carry all that they need to attend it. You could also go further and add some information on the local attractions, as it is likely that your guests will want to tour the place. Since you will anyway be seeking all this information out for yourself, do your guests a favor by sharing it with them. Since websites allow you to organize and provide all this information in a streamlined format, your guests will have no trouble finding what they want to know. They will also appreciate your effort in helping them plan their trip so well.

4.It isn’t considerate to guilt your guests into attending

It is your wedding, and you deserve to be happy. Nonetheless, this shouldn’t be at the expense of making someone unhappy or miserable. If an important person in your friends or relative’s circle is unable to attend, don’t pressurize them too far. Remember that the case would be entirely different if you were having your wedding closer to where you stay. Consider the different logistics that they have to work out, financial constraints they may have, or how impossible it is for them to travel so far and take time off work. So, be reasonable with your expectations and life will be a lot easier for everyone. Be understanding of those who can’t attend and answer “No” to your invitation. This is why it may be a good idea to hold a reception party later, when all those who couldn’t participate in the actual wedding, get a chance to congratulate you.

5.Everyone at the engagement party and whoever receives a save-the-date receives an invitation too

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Whether your save-the-date RSVP says Yes or No, the addressee is eligible for a formal wedding invitation. The same goes for the guests at your engagement party. This is one area where traditional wedding invitation etiquette applies. Even if your guests have confirmed that they won’t make it to your wedding, they still deserve a formal invitation. Some couples worry whether sending an invitation to someone who won’t be coming, is like they are fishing for gifts. It isn’t! The guest you send the save-the-date card to, might in fact feel ignored or slighted if they do not receive a follow-up invitation to the wedding. Things may also change along the way, and if they find a way to make it to the wedding, they may be disappointed when they do not receive an invitation. The other way you could handle it, is to send an invite to the reception you will host later, if they confirm they won’t be attending the wedding. So, if you have an engagement party, make sure that you choose the guest list properly, so that it will only have those people who will be invited to the wedding as well.

6.Your wedding dress should be low-fuss, easy to transport and manage

Wedding dresses are yards of fabric, delicately and intricately woven into splendid designs. Most of the traditional style wedding dresses are heavy, and may easily crinkle or look shabby if handled too much. If there are too many embellishments on it, over-handling can displace stones or crystals and ruin the overall look. These factors make it important to choose a wedding dress that is practical to transport. You will have to carry your wedding dress in your hand luggage when you board the aircraft. So, it should be a dress that is possible to stow away in the overheard luggage compartment or be hung above your seat. Once you are at the location, you may have to steam the dress to get rid of wrinkles and creases. So, it should also be made from fabric that can be ironed easily and not be damaged. Dresses in light, breathable fabric with just the necessary amount of embellishments are your best bet. Uncomplicated gowns without too many layers are practical to be transported and restored to its original look after the long journey to your destination. Dresses from collections such as the Mori Lee Voyage bring you plenty of options that will be perfect for a dream wedding away from home. Here is a sample.

This beautiful Mori Lee 6784 in poetic lace is a dress perfect for a vintage style wedding in an exotic location. The slim silhouette is formed of light layers that hold their shape during handling and the minimal embellishments reduce your risk of damaging the gown.

7.Your guests and wedding party will appreciate it if you offset some of the expenses

You are in no way obligated to foot the expenses for any of the factors that are normally paid for by your guests or bridal party. So, destination wedding or not, your guests will have to arrange for accommodation, bridesmaids will pay for their dresses and the wedding guests have to find their way to the venue. Nevertheless, if you have the funds to help with some of their expenses, like the accessories for bridesmaids or transportation on the day of the wedding, it would be very helpful for them. You could consider hiring a van or arranging a cab to pick your guests up from the airport, to transport them to their hotels. Or you could sponsor a guided tour on a day they are there, and we are sure your guests will love you for the thoughtful arrangement. Another thing you could do is to sponsor breakfast on the days they are there. It will be one meal they don’t have to pay for, and also allows everyone to meet and get together ahead of the wedding.

8.You can still register for gifts

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Don’t think twice about  registering for gifts. The people at your wedding will be spending a lot of extra money to make it to your wedding venue. Nevertheless, they will still want to gift you something to remember them by. The others who are unable to attend your wedding may also like to gift you, since it is a wedding after all! So, do set up a wedding registry. The only thing to remember is that your registry should contain affordable gifts of different prices. This way, your guests will have plenty of options. It will also take the burden off them to buy an expensive gift, after they’ve spent so much money to attend your wedding.

9.Your guests will appreciate it if you help them find cheap travel and accommodation deals

Air tickets are expensive, and so are hotel bookings. While this is on the cards when your guests agree to attending your destination wedding, you can still do a little in helping them along the way. The first thing you can do is to choose off-season wedding dates, so the entire transport and stay will be much cheaper. You could also research bulk airline booking discounts and hotel stay discounts that will lighten their expenses. If you inform an airline that there will be a group of people traveling together to your wedding, it is likely that they will offer you a discount. If you do your hotel reservations in advance, you may be able to block a set of rooms for a lower price and help your guests this way too.

Destination weddings have their pros and cons, just like every other wedding. Despite all the difficulties of planning and getting people to attend it, it is a unique, one-of-a-kind wedding that you should consider if you can afford it. The memories of getting married in an exotic location with the people you love the most, is definitely worth it.

So, if you have a destination wedding in mind, come visit us on Best for Bride and check out how we can help you nail your wedding vision. From the ideal wedding dresses to vendors and everything else you need for your wedding day, we can help you make your planning a big success.

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12 ideas for black and white wedding themes

Searching for a wedding theme that exudes sophistication? Or a wedding palette that simply can’t go wrong? Either way, a black and white wedding theme is just right to meet your need.

Classic and elegant, this is a timeless favorite that couples have perfected time and again. Both the colors, black and white are perfect neutrals. So, there are hundreds of ways in which you can add subtle accents to this combination to personalize your wedding palette. Whether it is a small dose of color or a metallic hue, black and white form the perfect combination to get the details right. Don’t discount the fact that these two colors are easy to find. Choose this combination and you will be saved from hours of tedious swatch matching and combination testing. After all, there is just one black, and maybe not just one, but only a handful of whites to choose from. Life cannot get easier than this, and you will be saved from so much stress when you choose this fail-safe combination.

Here, we bring you some interesting and workable ideas to get the various details at your black and white wedding just right. Check it out.

Black and white save-the-date card

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Set the stage for your black and white wedding with this black and white save-the-date card from Best for Bride. The crest shape, velvety finish and foil printing exude an air of glamour and style, and your guests will be intrigued to know what is in store for your wedding day, when the save-the-date card is itself so unusual and interesting. To check it out in detail or to place your order, visit this link here.

Follow it up with this fantastic damask black and white wedding invitation card and your guests will know they are in for a glamorous evening. This simple seal and send invitation makes work easy for you. Find out more about it by visiting this link here.

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Black and White wedding gown

Here comes the bride! As all eyes are on you during the wedding ceremony, how about a black and white wedding gown to have them saying Wow!? Not only is it perfect for the theme that’s going on, it will also be a classic choice where you do not compromise on style. I don’t think there is any other combination where you can easily find a wedding gown that blends in perfectly with the color palette. And, yes we have the perfect dress to do the job!

This Alfred Angelo 2457 is a fantastic black and white wedding gown in a modern fit. The delicately strewn lace details on the bodice extend to the waistline, with a black satin bow with flower detail highlighting the slim waist. Tasteful and striking! The Alfred Angelo 2454 and 2455 are two other black and white wedding gowns in a fit and flare design, that can also be considered for your wedding day.

White wedding flowers

Black flowers aren’t really feasible, or are they? The fail-safe option is to go with the whitest flowers available, and accentuate their stark white color with the rest of the bouquet accessories or foliage. It is a good idea to steer clear of flowers that have a distinct coloring on the inside, as this can water down the effect of the white. White roses and tulips are good candidates to achieve this effect, and the fuller the blooms, the more attractive it will be.

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I like the idea of adding little silver pins to the center of the blooms to accentuate the whiteness of this bouquet. Or if your florist can get hold of this picture-perfect white ranunculus with a black trim, it would be an absolute match for the theme. There are several factors that may determine its availability though. So, its a better idea to have the white rose bouquet as an alternative, if this may not be possible! ranunculus-300860_1280

White paper flower bouquet for the bold bride

Now, if you are aiming for white that is unblemished and free from any hint of color, paper flowers are your best bet. Look at the mesmerizing beauty of the flowers featured here, isn’t it a work of art? Crafted from paper that is pristine white, the little details in the center make it stunning. Now, if this doesn’t compete with a flower made from real blooms, I don’t know what will.

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If you want to try your hand at making this bouquet which is not only unique, but beautiful as well, we suggest that you visit Its Always Autumn, which has an extensive list of tutorials to make every type of paper flower imaginable. Make your pick from the bloom that you love and work your way towards DIY-ing your own bridal bouquet.  You can also consider using real flowers for your own bouquet, and having paper flower bouquets for your bridesmaids, and save some quick money on your flower budget.

Personalized black and white unity candle

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Choose to personalize the unity candle at your wedding ceremony with a beautiful black and white motif that matches the rest of the décor details at your wedding. Here, this candle is embellished with a simple, but attractive damask motif, and the names of the couple are added in an accent color. It can also be a décor item used throughout the venue, if that is what you would prefer. The intricate design and the ideal weaving of the signs of love, such as the love birds and little hearts, make this is a pleasant addition to any wedding.

Black and white wedding cake

The quickest way to create an impression at your wedding reception is to have a majestically towering black and white wedding cake. The sky is the limit and your baker’s talent the only constraint to weaving magic with flour and sugar to create a black and white wedding dessert. There are several options to work with. You can either use fondant for a sleek and refined finish, or go with white butter cream and simple black cake accessories for a more budget-friendly choice. A simple black satin ribbon around the base of each tier is in itself sufficient to dress up your cake and make it wedding-worthy. Nevertheless, we favor the elaborate choice of dressing up each clear white tier with beautiful black stencil or lace patterns, as you can see in this cake here.

How spectacular is this cake named Damask from Natalya, our wedding vendor at Best for Bride? It is a show stopper and we think you should have one that is just as eye-catching, for your wedding day too.

Black and white guest book

damask guest bookSome things deserve a little extra attention, as it will live on as the memories of your milestone celebration. Your wedding guest book is one of these. Keep the color theme on with a matching black and white damask guest book at your wedding seen here. Simply stylish, with its signature damask print on the upper half and a serene black lower half, this guest book also is embellished with a pretty white grosgrain bow in the center. Your guests will enjoy adding their friendly messages and best wishes to the newly-married couple. The available space can hold almost 700 signatures, and it will be enough and more for your guests to pen their messages to you. It will serve as the perfect memento to remind you of everyone who attended your wedding ceremony and made your big day even more special. Take a closer look at this interesting guest book by clicking on this link here.

Black and white place card

Spare no attention to detail, and your guests will be amazed with how well you’ve planned your wedding. This lacy black and white place card will direct them to their seats in style. The pretty motifs adorning the card are both attractive and artistically done. Created with black and fuchsia ink on white card stock, you can custom print it with your guest’s names and the tag line you wish to include. If you want to take a closer look at this beautiful place card, check it out over here.  We have many more place cards in the black and white color theme, and you can find all of them at this page.

Happily ever after black and white aisle runner

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Mark your Happily ever after Union with your life partner from the minute you enter the venue, with this attractive Happily Ever After Black and white Aisle runner. Black calligraphy adorns the white base that you will happily walk down on your wedding day. This aisle runner comes loaded with the pull cord making it both practical and convenient. Whether you have an outdoor or indoor ceremony planned, this will not be out of place, and will add the necessary dose of white to your ceremony venue in an instant. Find out about how you can order this, and also check out the other black and white aisle runner options we offer by visiting this page on Best for Bride.

Wedding Favor boxes

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Black and white favor boxes can house any gift and still have you sticking to your wedding color palette. That is what these interesting black and white tuxedo favor boxes can achieve with ease. Ideal for storing a handful of candies or sweets, they make the right choice for a tasty and interesting gift to pack your guests home with. Don’t forget to customize them with a small line that reads your names and the date of your wedding, and it will be ready to be taken away. Or if you prefer to leave it plain and keep it as it is, you can choose to do that too. Either way, we are sure this is a gift that every guest will be dying to open and find out what is within. Click here on this link to find the pricing and other details regarding this customized wedding favor choice.

Wedding party chair decorations

Reserve your places at your wedding reception in style with a pair of black and white chair backs that mention who the bride and groom are. The easiest option to set up the décor to match the palette is to use chairs that are painted white. Ones similar to those shown in this picture will look beautiful in both indoor and outdoor settings. The shimmery base of the signs are embellished with a flourish of black foil to make it attractive and ideal for the party. This particular design is available at Best for Bride, and you can place your order by clicking this link.

Table décor with Miniature glass bell

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Small white and black elements on all the tables at your reception will pack a punch as they add more detail to your wedding color palette. These miniature glass bell jars allow you to customize your table settings with what you choose to display in them. The best thing about this is that it can also double up as wedding favors which your guests will find useful in their homes, after they enjoy the yummy little treats that you pack into them. Whether you choose to display little cupcakes in pretty black and white filigree cases, stuff it with cookies, or line it up beside a stack of gourmet milk chocolates with a custom black and white wrapper like seen here, it will be a befitting element that adds to your classic décor.

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For more wedding décor items, wedding dresses, accessories and cakes for your dramatic black and white wedding, visit our Best for Bride website.