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12 Things to do to be the best bridesmaid ever

 

Weddings bring out the best and the worst in people. The bride, for one, will be under a lot of stress with planning the umpteen details for her wedding day. So, if you have signed up to be a bridesmaid, this is a time when you can expect to see your friend’s true colors.

Numerous brides have ended up with straining relationships with their bridesmaids as a result of wedding planning. This is unfortunate, as it doesn’t take much to avoid such situations. However, there are also many cases where brides and bridesmaids grew closer than they already were, by the end of a wedding. So, this basically depends on how both parties handle the situation.

As a bridesmaid, this is the right time for you to extend your help and support to the bride. After all, she considers you important and this is why she included you in her bridal party. It would be a kind and welcome gesture if you could extend your assistance to the bride in any way possible. Whether she accepts it or not, your proposal of help suggests you will be by her side, cheering her along.

Here are some of the different ways in which bridesmaids can help brides, as they plan their wedding. If you are soon to be a bridesmaid, read on to see how you can be a valuable asset to your friend, as she plans her wedding day!

1.Take up responsibility

Wedding planning involves so many details. So it is certain you can find an area in which you can contribute. Don’t wait for the bride to delegate duties or request your assistance. Take the initiative to find out what you can do. If you have limited time to spare, choose a task that fits in with your busy schedule. Or if you have talents that can help the bride with her wedding details, offer help in that area.

If you are crafty, you could help with DIY details like wedding favors or décor. Or if you have planned your own wedding, offer to help the bride sort out her wedding planning timeline. Anything from going shopping with her to helping the bride choose her wedding colors, theme or favors to addressing invitations, checking vendor reviews or even scouting for the dress will be of help to the bride. For a comprehensive list of bridesmaids duties, take a look at this article on the Knot website.

2.Try to accommodate the bride’s needs

When you sign up to be a bridesmaid, you should also prepare to accept responsibilities related to the wedding. The bride may want you to go shopping with her, co-ordinate matters with other bridesmaids or simply as a sounding board. Don’t brush off her needs saying you have a tight schedule. Find time to assist and support your friend for this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Make free time in your schedule and take on responsibilities she assigns you. This may sometimes require you to make small sacrifices. Remember that your effort will be worth it, when she will also find a way to return the favor when your turn comes.

3.Make her bridal shower real fun

Since you are responsible for the hen party/ bridal shower, try your level best and make it fun and memorable for your friend. After all the tedious tasks and hectic wedding planning, this is an occasion when your friend can sit back, relax and enjoy herself. It is also a welcome respite for her when she can engage in a party that she doesn’t plan herself.

Although you can easily whip up a party with little effort, do minimum decorations and order food that everyone will enjoy, it isn’t really fair towards the bride. She will certainly appreciate it if you let her have her moment and a little effort from your side can make a huge difference. Round up the rest of the bridesmaids and do some brainstorming. Get creative, involve yourselves in some DIY tasks and plan a party with plenty of personal touches that will mean a lot to the bride. Find all that you need to plan the perfect bridal shower in this article on the Huff Post.

4.Help her with her all-important wedding dress decision

Most brides see the inside of a wedding dress boutique for the first time after they are engaged. So, shopping for their wedding dress can be overwhelming with hundreds of available options. Add to it the fact that wedding dress shopping comes with its own dictionary of terms, don’t be surprised if your friend is confused and nervous about the whole thing.

If you are already equipped with the knowledge of how wedding dress shopping goes, share your ideas with her. You may come across useful information in magazines or online. Collect them and give it to your friend, so she can use it. If she invites you to go wedding dress shopping, try to find out what her preferences are. Encourage her to make the decision that is right. Remember that this is her choice. So keep her best interests in mind when you make suggestions and recommendations. Be on her side if the rest of the entourage are opinionated and tend to confuse her.

5.Be sensitive around the bride

Wedding planning can cause nervousness and exhaustion to such an extent, that even a cool-headed woman can turn into a Bridezilla. Many friendships and relationships have suffered irreparable losses due to wedding planning stress. While it is up to the bride to try and stay sane during all the wedding planning, there is a lot you can do to help her take it in her stride. Understand that your friend has a lot on her plate. So, try to overlook it when she seems unreasonable. Remember that this phase will pass. Listen to her and help her stay optimistic. Check in on her when she is under undue stress and help her when she needs someone.

6.Go with the flow

Although your friend may ask your opinion on every single wedding planning aspect, do not feel offended or disappointed if she doesn’t use your suggestions. Be honest with your opinions, but don’t patronize. As the bride, she will have her own vision and will have thought of her wedding a thousand times in her head. So, it is likely she will pick ideas that blend in with her overall vision. Don’t take it personally if your ideas don’t appeal to her. It could just be that she doesn’t think it fits in with her idea of how the day should be. It isn’t because she doesn’t value your opinion or asks just for the sake of it. Remember that it is her special day. All you can do is offer help that she may or may not take.

7.Be proactive with your responsibilities

There will be a lot of responsibility on your shoulders before, during and after the wedding day. The bride counts on you to make all these things happen on time. Take responsibility and do things punctually and with perfection. If she specifies a deadline for a task, make your plans so this deadline is met. Always double-check with the bride in case of doubt. Your timely help is crucial. So, don’t procastinate and delay things unnecessarily. Be proactive and offer assistance to the rest of the bridal party with their tasks, if you have the time for it. Your involvement and support will lend a positive atmosphere to the wedding planning, and the bride will surely appreciate it.

8.Prepare to handle pre-wedding jitters

Don’t be surprised if the bride is too stressed out at times and suffers from pre-wedding blues. Remind her that this is normal, and only because she is stressed. Don’t dismiss her when she comes to discuss her fears and anxiety. Convince her that all will be well, and that you will support her through it. The bridal party can always plan a surprise girls evening for the bride to unwind and put aside her wedding planning stress for a while. The wedding eve is when a stressed out bride is most susceptible to pre-wedding jitters. Prepare yourself and handle this sensibly and make her last day as an unmarried woman pleasant and memorable.

9.Adjust well with the team

You will not be the only person in the bridal party. With the bride picking friends and family members to support her as bridesmaids, you will have to work alongside women of different personalities. This can sometimes lead to conflicts. If the group is large, striking a rapport with the different members becomes important. Since you should work together to plan the bridal shower and to co-ordinate on the wedding day, compromise and adjustment becomes necessary. Disagreements are normal, but don’t make the mistake of taking it too far and ruining the bride’s peace of mind. Respect each others space and stay away from arguments that can get out of hand.

10.Be prepared for emergencies

Emergencies of various natures can crop up anytime during the wedding. This can quickly throw the entire wedding plans off-balance and create stressful situations for the bride. As her pillar of support, be prepared for such situations, step in and help in whatever way you can. You can also prepare for certain likely issues, well in advance. Consider packing an emergency kit with items like safety pins, chalk, tissues, blotting paper and safety pins and hair pins which may come in handy at any time on the wedding day. Also consider warning your bride about likely trouble situations like weather problems, if you foresee a likely problem. A list of common emergencies and how to tackle them are available here on the Bride Box.

11.Don’t complain or be snarky

We get it if you do not agree with the bridesmaid dress choice or are unhappy with your friend’s wedding planning decisions. Nonetheless, remember that it is her wedding and her decision and you ought to respect it. If something makes you really uncomfortable, like perhaps the chosen dress style, tell the bride about it. However, keep it to the point. Accept it if she prefers to stick with her choice. It is just the matter of one day. Go with it and rest assured, you will not suffer any permanent damage because of it.

12.Don’t embarrass the bride

You don’t want to be that bridesmaid who gives the bride nightmares. Unfortunately, few women realize the trouble they cause their friends by simply voicing out unwarranted opinions and advice, spilling wedding plans and going overboard with drinking at the wedding. Act sensibly and know your limits. You will participate in several celebrations, like the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremony and reception. Don’t do anything that will make the bride regret her decision of making you bridesmaid. She has enough stress to handle as it is; you do not want to add to it in any way.

Bridesmaids have a very important role in a wedding. However, it is one that comes with various important responsibilities. Appreciate the gesture of your friend, who values your support and invited you to be part of her special day. She deserves your presence, guidance and assistance as she embarks on planning the biggest event in her life. Use this opportunity to be a good friend and make her day extra-special with your personal efforts. As you look back on this experience in the future, it will be one that is filled with special memories and a sense of accomplishment.

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7 things to remember when announcing your engagement

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Your Prince Charming has finally asked you the big question—and you said “Yes!” Congratulations! It is really exciting, isn’t it?

We know that you just can’t wait to break this news to the rest of the world! And you deserve to let everyone know. But, just take a minute before you change your relationship status on Facebook, and click save! Or before you tweet it to the world or post it in your friend circle on FB. There are certain basic etiquette rules to follow where an engagement is concerned. Let us take a look at what they are.

Family deserves to know first

Unless you are in an unusual situation where family doesn’t really count, they should be the first people that you should share the news with. There is nothing happier than telling it to your parents in person and watching their reaction to the news. If your partner is a true Prince Charming, it is likely that he has already asked for your parent’s blessings prior to proposing. In that case, this may come as expected. Nevertheless, they deserve to know first. If they live far away, break the news to them through a phone call or better, in a video chat. Whether you do it alone, or with your partner, depends on how you think your parents are likely to react to the news. You can also pass the news to the groom’s family first, if that is what you prefer. The only exception to telling your parents is when it is a second marriage and you have children. In this case, they deserve to be the first to know, whether they are young or grown up. You should also share this news with your ex-spouse, so they can help your children in accepting the news. Do not involve your fiancé when you talk to your children about this, so they can react naturally to the news.

Your close friends and family should know before the rest of the world does

As tempted as you may be to make the big announcement to the world, it is only appropriate that the most important people in your life get the exclusive first. News travels fast. So, don’t be surprised if your grandmother is offended because she came to know of your engagement through a friend, who found the news on your social media network. This will always be disappointing, even if you were planning to personally meet her to share the good news. Pick up the phone and call up all those who are really close to you. This should include your siblings, close relatives and close friends. Or message them personally. It won’t take long for them to acknowledge it. Once you’ve personally conveyed it to your dearest ones, don’t hesitate to scream from the rooftops! Or as is the current trend, announce it on social media.

If hosting a surprise engagement party, make sure all those who personally deserve to know are invited

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Some couples decide to break the big news to friends and family at an engagement party. In other cases, it is the parents who want to celebrate the engagement by throwing a party for the couple, when they announce the news to everyone. Engagement parties are not customary, and whether you have one or not is up to your discretion. However, if this is how you intend to break the news, plan your guest list well. This is a very special occasion, and all those who personally deserve to know should be invited. Another factor to keep in mind is that, anyone who is invited to the party, also gets an invitation to the wedding. This is basic etiquette.

Other ways to announce are equally good

If you aren’t so fond of the idea of an engagement party, there are other traditional ways of informing everyone, albeit in a proper and personal way. One of the oldest, yet one of the most popular methods is through an engagement announcement in the newspaper. This task is traditionally undertaken by the bride’s parents. Or, you can consider doing it yourself. The announcement may be accompanied by a photo. So, it gives you a good opportunity to use the pictures from your engagement photo shoot. You can find out more details on how to do this in the right format, at this article on the Bridal Guide.  Older relatives may appreciate if your parents personally tell them the news over telephone, or write to them. You can also host an engagement party, where you inform the invitees that you are engaged right when you invite them. It isn’t unusual to set up a registry prior to the party, as at least some guests will want to gift you on this occasion. Make sure that you have items of a smaller budget on your registry, so they do not have trouble finding a reasonably priced option.

Save-the-date cards are a great way to make the announcement

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Save-the-date cards are an ideal way to share the news with both your close associates and those who you think should know that you are engaged. If you have already finalized your wedding date, save-the-dates will give your wedding guests enough notice to begin planning their availability. There are many beautiful card options on our store at Best for Bride. We suggest that you take a look at this link here, so you can pick one that appeals to you. If you already have a specific idea of your wedding colors and patterns, you can search for one that matches the tone of the wedding. This will offer your guests a sneak peek into what they can expect at the wedding. If you still haven’t reached that phase, it is perfectly acceptable to email or send the good news to through snail mail. This will help you to share it promptly, and while you are most excited, and they will appreciate your gesture of involving them in your joy.

Let your casual acquaintances also know

There is no reason you should keep your engagement under wraps from anyone other than your immediate family and friends. Share the news on social media, but after you have informed all your closer acquaintances personally. After all, you deserve to bask in all the attention that you will get on this special occasion. There are many creative ways to make this announcement. So, if your soon-to-be-husband blew you off with a surprising proposal, this is your chance to be impressive with your creativity and stun him. If you have trouble coming up with how to do this with style, visit this article on the wedding party app blog for plenty of inspiration. We quite love the champagne idea; it is a great way to make that celebratory champagne work its way towards a beautiful announcement. And, as the article suggests, staging a photo shoot may seem too time-consuming. However, it is the perfect way to buy you that time to first announce the news to all those closer to you, and wow the world with how you break this important news, when the time is just right.

In all cases, put some thought into it

All you are concerned with is just telling the world that you have taken the big step in your relationship, right? Wrong! While you may just want to spill the news now, remember that how you do it will seem important, when you think back on it later.

Whether you do it in writing, over the phone or on social media, how you do it will seem relevant to you later. Even if you don’t want to adhere to traditional etiquette in this matter, make sure that your engagement announcement receives the due importance it deserves, by communicating it with interest and enthusiasm. It may be on an anniversary in the future that you scroll back to your social media announcement, and look at how special it seemed at the time. You do not want to regret how careless and casual you sounded. Just a “We’re engaged!!” can be so boring. So, do it better and it will be another wonderful page in your memories.

Now that we know what you should remember when announcing your engagement, let us also look at the ugly part of the whole thing—the likely mistakes to avoid! Yes, there is such a thing as a terrible announcement that people can roll their eyes at or even disapprove. You do not want that to happen to you. So, here are some ways in which you should avoid spreading the breaking news about this big event in your life.

  • Never ever break it at another person’s celebration

You may be super-thrilled about that big solid rock on your finger, and can’t wait to show it off. So, create an occasion for it, when you will proudly announce the news. Don’t use another gathering as the chance to bring it out into the open. It is very rude if you decide to share this news at another celebration, like a friend’s birthday, anniversary or any other important ceremony, for that matter. It is stealing attention from the person who hosts the celebration, and you are wrong in doing so. If someone you know discusses this on the day, you can disclose the fact but keep the discussion to a minimum and hold off other details for later.

  • By beating around the bush and expecting people to get the drift

You may think that sending out cryptic messages and having people ask you about what is going on is cute and exciting—not always! While those who are actually close to you may catch the drift and ask you what is going on, remember that everyone including your colleagues and friends from an other life read this stuff. Not all may be equally curious, and it can easily be overlooked. Worse is the fact that they may not appreciate all this drama. So, a straightforward and clear message is the way to go.

  • Showing off

You may have an exemplary ring, which your fiancé spent a fortune on. Or, you may be engaged to the hottest guy on the planet. Nevertheless, nobody will appreciate you bragging about it. Let the ring speak for itself, and let the girls feel jealous of the handsome hunk you call your own. You don’t have to advertise it for attention. That just makes you sound like you won a lottery, and don’t deserve what you have. So, please curb the enthusiasm to discuss the carat and cost of your ring, unless you are specifically asked for it.

  • Don’t pick the wrong time to make the announcement

It is never a good idea to break the news to someone when they are going through a difficult patch or have heard some bad news. This is disrespectful. As excited as you may be about the great thing that just happened in your life, it would be best to be empathetic and postpone your engagement announcement till they are better prepared to take it in. Whether this is your close friend who just broke up with her boyfriend of forever, or someone who has lost a dear one, keep the news to yourself till they come to terms with their grief. Trust us, they will not feel bad that you didn’t share the news immediately, once they know why!

So, as you mark the start of your sweet life story, make sure to do it right and all those beside you will be happy.

Somebody once said “Engagement marks the end of a whirlwind romance and the beginning of an eternal love story.” Here is all happiness and joy to you as you begin your life together. And for everything that you need for your spectacular and love-filled wedding day, visit us at Best for Bride. From wedding dresses, to bridesmaids dresses, accessories, cakes, invitations and wedding favors, we have everything you need for your big day in one place. Partner with us as you begin planning your wedding, and we will make sure you have the best experience you can possibly get.

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5 tips to help you be a good bridesmaid

A bride greatly relies on her bridesmaids to make sure her wedding day runs smoothly. Nevertheless, not all bridesmaids realize the extent to which they are important in a wedding. If you have been asked to be a bridesmaid, it is a big honor, as the bride values your presence and participation in her wedding. So, don’t you think you ought to make sure you do not disappoint her?

Here, we bring you some tips on how you can make your friend’s wedding special by doing your job well. Let us take a look at them.

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Be enthusiastic about the wedding

Getting married is a lifetime event, and a big deal for your friend. Feel happy for her, and make sure you are enthusiastic when she shares her dreams, fears and ideas for her big day. Your support will be very encouraging. Be there for her when she needs help with her wedding dress shopping, is worried about how things will turn out or is confused when she has to make a decision. Strive to make her wedding planning smooth by contributing ideas or offering to help when possible.

Be flexible and not a drama queen

So, your friend may choose a dress color that is not perfect on you. Don’t make a big fuss over it. Remember that it is her wedding and she expects you to go with what she chooses. If she is a good friend, it is unlikely that she will choose a dress that looks terrible on you. But, once you’ve agreed to be a bridesmaid, you should go with what she chooses, whether you like it or not.

Don’t be overbearing

You may have a ton of ideas and suggestions for your friend, but don’t try to take over her wedding. Remember that she has also been dreaming about her big day for a long time, and has a certain idea of how it should be. If she wants help with making decisions, offer them but don’t put her off by telling her that her plans sound terrible.

Don’t be too busy for your responsibilities

The bridesmaids have to be present when choosing their dresses, for the bridal shower and rehearsal dinner. Plan and organize your schedule so you do not miss any of the important wedding-related events. Try to make friends with the rest of the bridesmaids and co-ordinate with the maid of honor to understand your role and responsibilities. Get to your dress appointments on time and do your hair and makeup on the wedding day as instructed. Mark your calendar with the things you should be doing and polish your organizational skills so you handle your responsibilities to the best of your ability.

Keep the wedding planning information to yourself

Bridesmaids are usually the people who get to hear of all the wedding details first. You will know what your friend will be wearing, what the wedding color palette is and more. Stay loyal and don’t spread this information around. Your friend expects you to keep it a secret.

So, now you know what is expected of you and how to be a good bridesmaid. For more valuable wedding tips and advice, visit us on Best for Bride.