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7 things to remember when announcing your engagement

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Your Prince Charming has finally asked you the big question—and you said “Yes!” Congratulations! It is really exciting, isn’t it?

We know that you just can’t wait to break this news to the rest of the world! And you deserve to let everyone know. But, just take a minute before you change your relationship status on Facebook, and click save! Or before you tweet it to the world or post it in your friend circle on FB. There are certain basic etiquette rules to follow where an engagement is concerned. Let us take a look at what they are.

Family deserves to know first

Unless you are in an unusual situation where family doesn’t really count, they should be the first people that you should share the news with. There is nothing happier than telling it to your parents in person and watching their reaction to the news. If your partner is a true Prince Charming, it is likely that he has already asked for your parent’s blessings prior to proposing. In that case, this may come as expected. Nevertheless, they deserve to know first. If they live far away, break the news to them through a phone call or better, in a video chat. Whether you do it alone, or with your partner, depends on how you think your parents are likely to react to the news. You can also pass the news to the groom’s family first, if that is what you prefer. The only exception to telling your parents is when it is a second marriage and you have children. In this case, they deserve to be the first to know, whether they are young or grown up. You should also share this news with your ex-spouse, so they can help your children in accepting the news. Do not involve your fiancé when you talk to your children about this, so they can react naturally to the news.

Your close friends and family should know before the rest of the world does

As tempted as you may be to make the big announcement to the world, it is only appropriate that the most important people in your life get the exclusive first. News travels fast. So, don’t be surprised if your grandmother is offended because she came to know of your engagement through a friend, who found the news on your social media network. This will always be disappointing, even if you were planning to personally meet her to share the good news. Pick up the phone and call up all those who are really close to you. This should include your siblings, close relatives and close friends. Or message them personally. It won’t take long for them to acknowledge it. Once you’ve personally conveyed it to your dearest ones, don’t hesitate to scream from the rooftops! Or as is the current trend, announce it on social media.

If hosting a surprise engagement party, make sure all those who personally deserve to know are invited

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Some couples decide to break the big news to friends and family at an engagement party. In other cases, it is the parents who want to celebrate the engagement by throwing a party for the couple, when they announce the news to everyone. Engagement parties are not customary, and whether you have one or not is up to your discretion. However, if this is how you intend to break the news, plan your guest list well. This is a very special occasion, and all those who personally deserve to know should be invited. Another factor to keep in mind is that, anyone who is invited to the party, also gets an invitation to the wedding. This is basic etiquette.

Other ways to announce are equally good

If you aren’t so fond of the idea of an engagement party, there are other traditional ways of informing everyone, albeit in a proper and personal way. One of the oldest, yet one of the most popular methods is through an engagement announcement in the newspaper. This task is traditionally undertaken by the bride’s parents. Or, you can consider doing it yourself. The announcement may be accompanied by a photo. So, it gives you a good opportunity to use the pictures from your engagement photo shoot. You can find out more details on how to do this in the right format, at this article on the Bridal Guide.  Older relatives may appreciate if your parents personally tell them the news over telephone, or write to them. You can also host an engagement party, where you inform the invitees that you are engaged right when you invite them. It isn’t unusual to set up a registry prior to the party, as at least some guests will want to gift you on this occasion. Make sure that you have items of a smaller budget on your registry, so they do not have trouble finding a reasonably priced option.

Save-the-date cards are a great way to make the announcement

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Save-the-date cards are an ideal way to share the news with both your close associates and those who you think should know that you are engaged. If you have already finalized your wedding date, save-the-dates will give your wedding guests enough notice to begin planning their availability. There are many beautiful card options on our store at Best for Bride. We suggest that you take a look at this link here, so you can pick one that appeals to you. If you already have a specific idea of your wedding colors and patterns, you can search for one that matches the tone of the wedding. This will offer your guests a sneak peek into what they can expect at the wedding. If you still haven’t reached that phase, it is perfectly acceptable to email or send the good news to through snail mail. This will help you to share it promptly, and while you are most excited, and they will appreciate your gesture of involving them in your joy.

Let your casual acquaintances also know

There is no reason you should keep your engagement under wraps from anyone other than your immediate family and friends. Share the news on social media, but after you have informed all your closer acquaintances personally. After all, you deserve to bask in all the attention that you will get on this special occasion. There are many creative ways to make this announcement. So, if your soon-to-be-husband blew you off with a surprising proposal, this is your chance to be impressive with your creativity and stun him. If you have trouble coming up with how to do this with style, visit this article on the wedding party app blog for plenty of inspiration. We quite love the champagne idea; it is a great way to make that celebratory champagne work its way towards a beautiful announcement. And, as the article suggests, staging a photo shoot may seem too time-consuming. However, it is the perfect way to buy you that time to first announce the news to all those closer to you, and wow the world with how you break this important news, when the time is just right.

In all cases, put some thought into it

All you are concerned with is just telling the world that you have taken the big step in your relationship, right? Wrong! While you may just want to spill the news now, remember that how you do it will seem important, when you think back on it later.

Whether you do it in writing, over the phone or on social media, how you do it will seem relevant to you later. Even if you don’t want to adhere to traditional etiquette in this matter, make sure that your engagement announcement receives the due importance it deserves, by communicating it with interest and enthusiasm. It may be on an anniversary in the future that you scroll back to your social media announcement, and look at how special it seemed at the time. You do not want to regret how careless and casual you sounded. Just a “We’re engaged!!” can be so boring. So, do it better and it will be another wonderful page in your memories.

Now that we know what you should remember when announcing your engagement, let us also look at the ugly part of the whole thing—the likely mistakes to avoid! Yes, there is such a thing as a terrible announcement that people can roll their eyes at or even disapprove. You do not want that to happen to you. So, here are some ways in which you should avoid spreading the breaking news about this big event in your life.

  • Never ever break it at another person’s celebration

You may be super-thrilled about that big solid rock on your finger, and can’t wait to show it off. So, create an occasion for it, when you will proudly announce the news. Don’t use another gathering as the chance to bring it out into the open. It is very rude if you decide to share this news at another celebration, like a friend’s birthday, anniversary or any other important ceremony, for that matter. It is stealing attention from the person who hosts the celebration, and you are wrong in doing so. If someone you know discusses this on the day, you can disclose the fact but keep the discussion to a minimum and hold off other details for later.

  • By beating around the bush and expecting people to get the drift

You may think that sending out cryptic messages and having people ask you about what is going on is cute and exciting—not always! While those who are actually close to you may catch the drift and ask you what is going on, remember that everyone including your colleagues and friends from an other life read this stuff. Not all may be equally curious, and it can easily be overlooked. Worse is the fact that they may not appreciate all this drama. So, a straightforward and clear message is the way to go.

  • Showing off

You may have an exemplary ring, which your fiancé spent a fortune on. Or, you may be engaged to the hottest guy on the planet. Nevertheless, nobody will appreciate you bragging about it. Let the ring speak for itself, and let the girls feel jealous of the handsome hunk you call your own. You don’t have to advertise it for attention. That just makes you sound like you won a lottery, and don’t deserve what you have. So, please curb the enthusiasm to discuss the carat and cost of your ring, unless you are specifically asked for it.

  • Don’t pick the wrong time to make the announcement

It is never a good idea to break the news to someone when they are going through a difficult patch or have heard some bad news. This is disrespectful. As excited as you may be about the great thing that just happened in your life, it would be best to be empathetic and postpone your engagement announcement till they are better prepared to take it in. Whether this is your close friend who just broke up with her boyfriend of forever, or someone who has lost a dear one, keep the news to yourself till they come to terms with their grief. Trust us, they will not feel bad that you didn’t share the news immediately, once they know why!

So, as you mark the start of your sweet life story, make sure to do it right and all those beside you will be happy.

Somebody once said “Engagement marks the end of a whirlwind romance and the beginning of an eternal love story.” Here is all happiness and joy to you as you begin your life together. And for everything that you need for your spectacular and love-filled wedding day, visit us at Best for Bride. From wedding dresses, to bridesmaids dresses, accessories, cakes, invitations and wedding favors, we have everything you need for your big day in one place. Partner with us as you begin planning your wedding, and we will make sure you have the best experience you can possibly get.

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10 things to do before you go shopping for your wedding dress

Wedding dress shopping is one of the most anticipated wedding tasks for most brides. After all, the day you get married is the most important day in your life, and your wedding dress plays a huge role in helping you look great for it.

Many brides dream about their wedding dress and wedding day, right from the time they are little girls. Although their ideas of fashion would have changed over the years, the excitement of wedding shopping always thrills a would-be bride.

Being prepared in advance will help you enjoy your wedding shopping to the most, and help you find the dress you want easily. Here is a list of what you should do in advance, before you start with your wedding shopping. Make sure to follow it, and you will be set for the best shopping experience of your life.

1.Fix the maximum price

Let’s get the money part sorted out first. Everything about your wedding depends on the money you can afford to spend on it. Before you even think of going shopping, you should have a definite idea of how much you can spend on your wedding gown. Wedding gowns come in all price ranges, so define your upper limit. Then, you will not waste time on gowns that you cannot afford, or even worse, fall in love with a dress that is way over-budget. Another thing to remember is that if you already know your budget, you can do your research online and shortlist gowns you like. You can then choose a bridal shop that stocks the gowns you like.

Don’t believe that you have to settle for a gown in the shop you visit. You can always shop elsewhere if the boutique doesn’t have a good collection within the range you can afford.

There are several ways to work on a budget and still get a fabulous gown. Clearance sales, dress rentals, discount vouchers and offers make it possible to buy a gown at a price much lesser than its original cost. We suggest that you check out this article to learn more about how to make the most of your wedding dress budget, and also learn about all the expenses will be included in the final price.

2.Decide on the style of wedding

Not all gowns are suitable for every type of wedding. You may look out-of-place in an elaborate ball gown, if you are getting married at the beach. So, plan your venue and style of wedding long before you begin searching for your wedding dress. You have to consider whether certain dress features may be inappropriate for the style of wedding you have planned. For example, if you are getting married in an orthodox place of worship, wedding dresses with low cut necklines or revealing fabric may be inappropriate.

Check out these finer details before you embark on wedding shopping, so you do not have to alter your decision after you place the order. Your wedding dress should also tie with the theme of the wedding and match the formality of the event. If you have planned a classic wedding, a full train and veil may be necessary for your dress to match the style. So, consider all these factors before you start looking for your bridal gown.

3.Plan who accompanies you when you go shopping

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Although the final decision of what you wear on your wedding day is up to you, the people who accompany you on your wedding shopping can significantly influence your decision. So, it is not a small matter deciding who comes along. Don’t feel obliged to invite everyone on your bridal party or include all the women and men who think they should be part of your entourage.

Our experience is that the smaller the entourage, the better it is. Too many cooks spoil the broth, and this is accurate where wedding shopping is concerned. On many occasions, we have we seen a bride walk in knowing what she wants, only to end up being confused by differing opinions and ending up totally lost. When choosing your entourage, make sure they are people who share your taste for fashion and who have your best interests at heart. They should be encouraging and not dismissive of any choice you finally make. If you feel bad for not including all the women who wanted to go shopping with you, you can still invite them to come along when you go for your fitting sessions.

4.Have an idea of what style you want

Wedding dresses come in hundreds of styles and with distinct features. You can quickly get lost in a whirlwind of options, if you go shopping without a rough idea of what you want. So, it is helpful to be prepared.

Start with understanding your body shape and then looking at silhouettes that flaunt your best features. Our previous article on how to choose wedding dresses according to body shape will help you in this direction. Apart from understanding what silhouette will look good on you, you should also consider the choices in necklines and sleeves when making a selection. Do you want to go with trendy styles like off-the-shoulder necklines and sweetheart bodices, or are traditional styles like Queen Anne necklines and three-fourth sleeves more suitable for your taste? Take your time in determining this, as this will help you make your dress decisions much faster, when you actually go shopping.

If there are certain features that you have liked in pictures, it is a good idea to collect them and take it with you when you go shopping. Your consultant can help you identify a similar dress easily, when you can show them what you seek. Remember to keep the venue and weather at the time in mind, when you plan your choices. You can also consider add-on accessories like sleeved mock boleros or waistbands to achieve the desired look, or simply for more style.

5.Decide on where to shop

No one will stop you from visiting all the bridal stores in town before you make a final decision. But trust me, it can get boring and disappointing after a while. So, where you shop is an important decision when you want to enjoy the experience. We think you can make this decision easily by paying attention to the following factors.

  • First determine the list of dresses that you want to try by checking online or in magazines
  • List down the shops that carry most or all of these dresses
  • Check for reviews on the service that these shops provide
  • Call up to make sure these dresses are in stock
  • Book your appointment and keep to it

But, what if you do not have a specific dress in mind? Then go by the reviews of the shops you shortlist. A good bridal salon will have a number of designer collections, that you can choose from. Also, the quality of customer service is very important if you want to enjoy your shopping experience. Talented bridal consultants can help you find the dress in no time. So, pay close attention to this factor. Either check with your friends for recommendations or go with online reviews. Also consider whether the salon has dresses within your price range, before you even book your appointment.

6.Plan to go shopping at the right time

The best time to shop is when there aren’t many people around. So, cross off weekends and evenings. Plan your shopping appointment on a weekday, when the boutique you visit will not be crowded. Don’t worry about taking a day off work, it will be worth it. Going into a shop when it is crowded is not only tiring, you may even end up making a wrong decision without exploring the alternatives.

We also suggest that you book your appointment in the morning, when the attendants will be fresh and attentive. If you plan to pick your dress during a sale, visit on the first day by all means. Nevertheless, don’t hasten your decision if you aren’t one hundred percent sure this is the dress. Think over it, and return once you make up your mind.

Designer Kelima K, in this article on Whattowear.com, is correct in suggesting that brides should start shopping at least six months in advance.  Shopping when there is just four months or less till the date is considered a rush order, and the charges may be higher to get things done on time.

7.Book an appointment

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You can always walk into a store to shop for your bridal dress. However, you should remember that if there are other brides who have booked an appointment, the boutique is bound to serve them first. So, eliminate the possibility of having to wait by booking yours too. Most bridal shops, including Best for Bride, allow you to conveniently book your appointment by telephone or online.  Both methods are definitely better than a boring wait on the day you go shopping.

When booking an appointment, you can also instruct the boutique to keep any specific dresses that you want to try on, ready. Although they may advertise all designer dresses as available it isn’t necessary that they will always have it in stock. So, if you check in advance, it will be easier to try on what you like in the closest size, at the appointment than go in for it again.

8.Carry the required accessories

A nude bra is a basic necessity that you should carry with you when you go shopping. Apart from this if you think you will be wearing shape wear, and already own some, take that along too. Wearing it with the dresses will help you gain a much better picture of how a dress will drape on your body. So, don’t skip these essentials.

Additionally, if you will be wearing any heirlooms, or have shoes, veils, jewelry or other accessories that you will be using on your wedding day, take them along. This way, you can choose a dress that goes well with these accessories, and not have to worry about how to mix the two together after you buy the dress.

9.Dress yourself up to look good

Well, you always look good! So, let’s be more specific. Like this article on the Bustle suggests,  it is a good idea to dress yourself up a little, so you look good when you try on wedding dresses. Basic makeup and a neat hairdo is all that is necessary, but it will make a big difference. If you wear your hair similar to how you intend to do at your wedding, you can better understand how your overall look would come together. This can help you choose between dresses, if that is what confuses you during your appointment.

Once you decide on a dress, you should do your trial hair and makeup session on one of the days you have your dress fixing appointment. This will give you a clear picture of how your look comes together, and leave you time to make any changes if you aren’t satisfied with what you see.

10.Prepare yourself to be surprised

Lastly, always expect the unexpected when you go wedding shopping. Of course, I mean this in a good way! Don’t be too fixated on what you should buy, and what will look good on you. Trust your bridal consultant and don’t hesitate to try on a dress she suggests. Having been in the business for so long, bridal consultants have seen many a bride walk in saying this is what she wants, but go back with an entirely different choice that blew her mind. This is because bridal consultants know the difference between how a dress looks on a frame and how it looks on the hanger. So, make use of their expertise and allow them to recommend dresses they think will be best for you.

So, you now know all you have to, before you start shopping. Now, go on and have a great time! And don’t forget to continue visiting us on Best for Bride for all that you ever wanted to know about wedding planning, shopping and everything in between.