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10 things that suggest you say “No” to a wedding dress

Not all brides are lucky enough to realize it when they come across the right wedding dress. Unless you have a very specific idea about the dress you want to wear, and find one that matches every one of your expectations, wedding shopping may not be so straightforward. With thousands of options and gorgeous wedding dresses that look just as good as the others, don’t be surprised if you are soon lost in a world of tulle and lace.

Here are the factors that you should pay attention to when you go shopping, so you know that when it is best to let go of a particular dress. This list will help you narrow down your choices by eliminating the dresses that will not be right. So, let’s look at when you should say “No” to a wedding dress.

When the dress is way over-budget

We cannot emphasize how important it is to first fix your wedding dress budget, and then go shopping. Wedding dresses can be as expensive as you want them to be. However, there are plenty of gems that are affordable as well. Don’t make the mistake of even trying on a dress that you cannot afford. If you fall in love with it, imagine the disappointment when you realize you simply cannot have it. And if, for some reason, you end up trying on a dress that is above budget or even think of wearing it just for the fun of it, keep in mind that you will not be buying it. The single reason that it costs more than your budget allows is enough for you to say “No” to it, this time.

Tip: When you calculate your wedding dress budget, don’t forget to account for alteration costs. This can easily add up to a few extra hundreds. So, look for a dress that will still be within your range, after the possible alteration charges that you may incur.

Your entourage is in love with it, though you aren’t

You know how it is when everyone around you seems to think this is the real deal, but you aren’t so sure. In some cases, you may be certain that this is not the dress, but your entourage may compel you to think otherwise. Don’t succumb to such pressure. Remember that no matter what the others think, a dress will simply not be best, unless you feel it yourself. Don’t force yourself to see their point of view and make the mistake of saying yes, because everyone thinks it is the one! We repeat, you do not want to be married in a dress that will leave you regretting the choice, simply because it wasn’t the one that you loved. Check out our previous article on how to choose your entourage wisely, so you minimize your chances of ending up in such a situation.

Some useful Info: Before you go shopping with your entourage, take a look at this short article on the Opinionator. Joanna Hershon tells us how she finally made her own dress decision for her wedding despite already having a dress picked out by mom, and how everything fell into place once she did. That’s something you should also consider!

When you are pressed for time

If you have been trying dresses on for the entire appointment and are satisfied almost to a great extent with the one you finally wear, do you take it? No, you shouldn’t!

Remember that your decision may be influenced by the other dresses that you tried on, and that you are running out of time and energy. Don’t make this mistake. Love a dress only because it is a dress you want to be married in, and not something you settled for. If you are saturated with lace, chiffon and organza gowns, stop the ordeal and go home. Come back for another appointment when you will be fresh and energetic. If you are almost certain that a dress is the right one, but not 100% sure, still don’t go for it. Instead go home and sleep over it. If you still find yourself attracted to the dress the next day, then it may be the one after all. Otherwise, you will be glad you didn’t finalize the decision without thinking it through, only to regret it later.

If it is not your style

The right wedding dress would be an extension of your personality, and it should reflect your taste and personal preferences. However beautiful a dress may be, if you cannot connect with it, it is best you simply say no. We have seen many brides agree to a certain silhouette just because their mom or friends think it is right and coerce them into agreeing. Other times, brides are tempted to try on the trendiest wedding dresses in the shop. However, a wedding dress is not just about the look. It is about becoming the bride that you always dreamed of being. So, if you have never turned towards a ball gown all your life, don’t do it on your wedding day. Similarly, if the latest trend statement, say a halter neck, isn’t one that you feel comfortable in, just stay away from it. Take cues from your current wardrobe and the look you love most on yourself, to decide what your wedding dress should be.

When the dress is too trendy

Fashion is always changing, even in the case of wedding dresses. So, what is in today, may be out tomorrow. We think it is best to experiment with fashion trends in your daily wardrobe, but never with your wedding dress. This is because the pictures of your wedding day will stay with you for a lifetime, long after the trends have changed. So, you don’t want to end up with a dated look, ten years from now. Use trends as a guide to find styles that really appeal to you, and enhance your natural figure and features. As award-winning bridal stylist, Ellie Sanderson tells us in this article on the Huff Post, “You can make a nod to current fashion but don’t take anything to extremes.” Stay safe with fashion trends that are good enough that you can expect them to be around for a while longer. Also, make sure that the dress features actually add to your attractiveness. Then, it won’t be a problem even if the style is no longer a fashion statement when you flip the pages of your wedding album years later.

If the gown doesn’t match your theme

If your wedding is based on a theme, it may not be the best idea to choose a dress that doesn’t match it. For example, an ultra-modern sleek gown may look out of place at a rustic vintage wedding, just as a traditional ball gown would be inappropriate at a beach wedding. So, pick your theme and find a wedding gown that matches it, or do the reverse. Do your homework on the types of silhouettes, fabrics and gown designs that would be best for your chosen wedding theme. Then go shopping and pick a gown that is suitable for the theme, and not just one that you are attracted to at the moment.

When the dress feels uncomfortable

Although you may find yourself look amazing in a dress, you should also feel comfortable in it. Wearing anything that you aren’t accustomed to will make you uncomfortable, whether it is on any other day or your wedding day. So, stick to wearing only a dress that is comfortable and doesn’t make you extra-conscious on your wedding day. The world of wedding gowns is ruled by strapless and sweetheart neckline gowns, but this design feature isn’t for every bride. It can be pretty annoying if you have to keep pulling up your neckline throughout the day, if you aren’t used to wearing it before. So, if you have never worn a strapless gown yet, or find yourself highly uncomfortable in it, it is best to avoid this on your wedding day. Similarly, other bold wedding dress features, like a fully-exposed back or a silhouette that is too clingy may not be suitable for all brides. If you choose a dress that has sleeves, you should be able to comfortably lift your arms. Unless you can alter the design to suit your personal taste and it doesn’t drastically alter the look of the dress, it is better to continue looking.

When you find more flaws than favorites

A few alterations or custom changes are fine, when you choose a gown. But, if you think a dress is alright, but you will have to fix at least five or more things for it to be good enough for your wedding day, it certainly isn’t the right gown. When there is just that one feature that is perfect, but all the rest of the features do not appeal to you, it simply means you will have to spend a lot of time, effort and not to mention money, to fix it. Remember that every alteration costs money, and you may end up paying a lot of money if you have to make many custom changes. This is usually not worth it. You are better off looking for another gown with the features that you like.

When your mind is still on another dress

Don’t always expect to cry and get all emotional when you come across the right dress. This doesn’t happen to all brides. Sometimes, you may not be sure that you have already found the right dress, till you try on more and your mind keeps going back to the previous one. So, if you find yourself torn between two dresses, and if you seem to get nowhere with your decision, don’t try to force yourself to like the one that you are wearing. It could be that you are inclined towards the current choice only because of it’s features that are similar to your original choice. Just to make sure, step out of the dress and think objectively about both. Unless the second one has a clear advantage over the first, it may be the first that actually appeals to you. Either way, it would be a good idea to take your time to make a decision. Go home, think over it for a day or two, and then return to place your order for the one you actually love.

If the gown doesn’t look great on the body you have now

Many brides anticipate a pre-wedding weight loss, which they expect to successfully happen in the months preceding the wedding. Whether this is possible or not, do not let this factor impact your dress decision. It is always better to choose a dress that looks good on your currently, and also buy it in your current size than take it in a smaller size. If the gown doesn’t flatter you right now, it is possible that it may not look good on you even after you shed the extra pounds. And if you are unable to lose the intended weight, it would be an even bigger tragedy. So, if the dress isn’t figure flattering or attractive on you at your dress appointment, say “no” to it without hesitation.

Wedding dress shopping is exciting, but equally daunting. However, knowing your options, finding a talented bridal consultant and looking for what you want will help you find the dress of your dreams with fewer hassles. Brides before you have done it, and so can you.

To enjoy your shopping experience, and to make the right choice from the thousands of designs available, trust the talented team at Best for Bride to help you. Book your appointment with us, so we can help you make your wedding dress dream a reality. Our vast inventory of top-class, high quality designer wedding dresses are sure to impress you. So, what are you waiting for? Come visit us today!

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Wedding Trends that went out in 2016

When you plan your wedding details, one aspect to consider is whether it will always seem appealing, or will quickly look dated. There are many trends that often feel outdated in just a few years. Then, there are also others that endure the test of time and end up being classics. These trends are those that have such a strong impact, that they are not easily forgotten nor replaced by new entrees into the scene.

While some of the trends we’ve seen in 2015 and 16 are still going strong, we can see some others fading out gradually. Over the course of this article, we will look at the trends that are no longer as popular as they were when they were first introduced. So, here they are.

Mason Jars

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Although mason jars continue to be the choice of many brides for serving party favors ranging from preserves to bath scrub, there is a general feeling that it is overused. As a result, guests no longer view this accessory as interesting, and it has definitely lost the appeal it once had. So, if you are considering mason jars for your wedding, it may be a good idea to rethink this option. You can always keep the drama alive by using different containers in various sizes, thus moving away from the monotony of using the same old mason jar everywhere. If you must have glass, you can also consider different finishes such as frosted glass containers, crystal ware or ones with decorative work to add an interesting twist.

Seated dinners

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Although traditional style five-course dinners continue to be seen at traditional weddings, more and more couples are opting for the casual, laid-back and easier buffet meals instead. With the growing popularity of casual and fun wedding themes, this gives couples a better alternative to provide wholesome and interesting dishes with minimum wastage. It also allows them to stick to a smaller budget and still serve interesting fare. Strolling food stations are considered more interesting and allow people the opportunity to walk around and indulge in conversation, thus reducing the formality of the occasion and making it more friendly. This also allows the couple to order less food, as the food isn’t placed at every table and they can safely assume that not everyone will want to try all the dishes. It thus gives them more flexibility in determining the appropriate serving sizes for each item on the menu.

Candy Buffets

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First it was the chocolate fountain that came with a bang, and then went out without a trace. Candy buffets are next on this list. What began as a huge trend in 2012, continued to find favor with couples tying the knot in 2013 and 14. Since it’s popularity has dwindled considerably, as it is making fewer appearances nowadays. If you are very fond of this idea, you may like to consider a miniature version of it for your younger guests. Forego it for the older guests, as it needn’t be such a great hit. The more interesting choice would be to opt for a dessert buffet in place of the extensively sweetened candy treats arranged in clear glass bottles. Rather than set one up and spend a huge amount on it, you can pack away a select few candy choices for your party guests in mint tins or personalized favor boxes.

Photo booths

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While a classic wedding backdrop is a timeless favorite, the photo booths set up with a range of thrift store finds and props are definitely moving out of the wedding scene. It has been overdone and whatever the theme, dressing up with fake props like glittering sun glasses and feathery stoles, and posing for silly pictures is no longer enjoyed by wedding guests. So, if you have a photo booth on your list of wedding décor accessories, it may be a good idea to cross it out. Or else, at least choose a theme-appropriate design that will do double duty as a beautiful background for your wedding setting.

Chalkboards

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Once upon a time, chalkboards were here, there and everywhere you looked. It was almost as though chalkboard was synonymous with anything even remotely rustic. Everything from the wedding menu, to seating arrangements, place cards and even direction signs were all done in chalkboard. What initially entered the wedding scene as an interesting and versatile display element ended up overpowering the rustic scene and becoming too common and no longer interesting. Luckily, that trend has ended as chalkboards are sparingly used today. So, don’t include it in your wedding, unless absolutely necessary. It is better off forming the base for your kitchen pantry list or as the menu sign a cafe. Instead, turn to the classic favorites like printed signs and banners and these will never go out of fashion.

Long veils

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A veil may be traditional fare and an easy shortcut to making most dresses fit into classic wedding themes. Nevertheless, the length of the veil has consistently reduced to no longer than arm-length over the years. Bird cage veils are occasionally spotted by brides still going with the vintage wedding themes. Short and sheer veils are also common-place enough. But the royal-length veil and veils that end at the knee or beyond are hardly chosen at all. Many brides even forego the veil entirely, and decorate their hair with pretty headpieces and accessories instead. This allows them to show off the stunning back details of their carefully chosen wedding dress, and may also be more practical and comfortable in an outdoor wedding.

Burlap

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Another close contender of the chalkboard, the burlap was once a must-have at any rustic wedding. It adorned everything from tables, buntings and aisles to bouquets and wedding favor bags. It was so popular, that everyone started associating vintage wedding themes with burlap. And this is probably one of the reasons why it became boring. You should also remember that it is not an element that can just be added anywhere. Distinct in color and with powerful texture, burlap is easily noticeable and cannot be overlooked when added to your wedding scene. Couples always want to incorporate an element of surprise into their weddings, and burlap is anything but unexpected. So, it is no wonder that it is slowly being replaced by newer and more interesting versions in fabric. Now, if you have a shabby chic wedding in mind, you can still execute it to perfection sans the burlap. Turn to distressed wood and lace instead, as these are elements that have stood the test of time.

Bridesmaids in matching dresses

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Bold and brave brides set the scene as they deviated from the matching-matching bridesmaid trend, early this decade. This has now taken the bridal fashion world by storm as fewer brides choose the same dress for all their bridesmaids. Accepting the individuality and personal style of each of the girls who stand beside them when they say “I do,” brides now prefer the mix and match style to entirely matching bridesmaid dresses. Expect to see them continue and brides come up with more innovative ideas to choose dress combinations that work together in tandem. The current trend is to choose colors from the same palette or dresses with different features but in the same color. Color block variations of a certain pattern are also a trending favorite.

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There was a time when soft, pretty pastels were the go-to choice for wedding color palettes. It continues to be pleasant, refreshing and definitely spring-time, but it is less favored now. Brides today prefer to choose bolder and more obvious colors for their wedding color palette. With the focus on deeper colors that have a stronger personality, pastels are less popular compared to the time every wedding had a pastel touch to it. If you have your mind set on colors that belong to this spectrum, it is a better idea to limit yourself to one or two colors, and mix it up with bolder hues or neutrals that will not look dated when you go through your wedding album ten years from now.

Long-sleeves

Long-sleeve bridal dresses were in demand in the years following Kate Middleton’s wedding. The interest in this fashion feature continued for a few consecutive years, but now brides are stepping away from it. After the off-the-shoulder style and single strap style that were popular in 2014 and 15, brides are again embracing strapless and sleeveless styles like before. The illusion sleeve however still finds favor with many brides as it is one that camouflages many flaws and enhances the best features of many a bride. Whimsical fluttery sleeves and cap sleeve gowns also are popular choices with brides who wish to cover their neck and shoulders but don’t want to entirely cover up their arms in full-length sleeves.

Towering wedding cakes

There was a time when having a tall and towering wedding cake was compulsory. Intricately designed and taking the theme to the extreme, these cakes were elaborate and huge, and not to mention expensive. Couples these days however opt for style in place of size and like to make a statement with their distinct wedding cake choice. Couples who choose to have towering wedding cakes, do so with a difference. They turn to faux cake layers for the effect and keep the actual cake tiers minimum to save money. The more preferred choice however, is to have a small but beautiful couture cake for the actual cake cutting ceremony. Guests are then served from sheet cakes in the kitchen. This way, there is no compromise on style, but the cost is minimized while the guests still get to eat excellent cake.

Glitter

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Bling is no longer stylish. The spotlight instead is on monotone and deep metallic. Glittering details may crop up once in a while, but more and more brides choose to stay away from glittering invitations, backdrops, wedding table décor and anything that is overly glitzy. While casual theme weddings go with fun eclectic combinations in tropical and bright colors, the formal styles choose gold, silver and other metallic colors in accents that are tastefully and proportionally added to the décor. So, stay away from far too much glitter and shine in anything wedding related, as this will soon be a dated look.

Ombre

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Mostly confined to wedding cakes, ombre was a fashion statement in the last few years. Different colors were played out in varying shades all over cakes, with pinks and reds ruling the scene of ombre cakes. However, it has become a tad boring, and now brides are on the lookout for something different to mark their weddings with. Like we said earlier, the choice is more for artistically designed and detailed cakes that pack a punch, despite their simplicity. If you have your heart set on ombre, you can still confine it to the inside layers of the cake, but leave it off the fondant. The other happening trend that is still largely favored are nude cakes. The refreshing simplicity of their decoration and the natural look seems to have captivated many hearts. This is in stark contrast with elaborate fondant ombre cakes, so you can take a cue from this fact itself.

Can you think of any other trends that will soon be out of weddings entirely, though they were huge favorites initially? If so, do let us know in the comments below.

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