In most people’s minds, when you mention the word wedding, they immediately have a fairytale-like sight, meaning a venue that’s packed with the people you love, your future spouse, beautiful decorations, romantic music, etc.
That’s at least the situation when you’re child-free, but then, all of a sudden, everything changes when a newborn is in the picture. Not in a negative way, of course, but it certainly is different. A perfect little addition to this picture.
Then your entire wedding planning becomes a bit more challenging, because you need to squeeze in the baby’s eating schedule, nap time, and other activities that are part of their routine.
But just because it’s different, it doesn’t mean that it’s bad or impossible to execute. If you’d like to know what you can expect in the future, when it comes to this, then stay tuned because this article will further explore this topic.
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Your Priorities Change
You have probably heard numerous times in the past how priorities change once the baby arrives. This doesn’t refer solely to your daily routine and tasks, but your wedding, too! Now, that doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to plan anything properly.
It just means that you might spend more time deciding. Something that would normally take an hour or two, with a little one, may take days. Besides that, you’ll be asking a bunch of different questions that aren’t only related to this special day, but also to your newborn, as well. These are some examples of it:
- How will the baby handle the noise?
- Will they cry all the time?
- Will you be able to relax and enjoy your wedding day to the maximum?
Once you become a mom who needs to take care of your little angel, then you develop an instinct for what’s really crucial. Although you will still look forward to this day, you won’t think about the decorations (just an example) as much, but more about how your tiny human is going to “survive” it.
But don’t worry. If you have the right support, plus you equip yourself with all the essentials, such as diapers, a burp cloth, a bottle of milk, and water, then you won’t worry as much. You’ll have peace of mind knowing that everything that’s necessary is right there within your reach.
Time-Related Changes
Once the baby arrives, you will quickly conclude that you’ll need to plan things differently, not solely when it comes to your wedding, but your life, in general. For instance, if you need to make a phone call or respond to an email, you’ll need to do it while holding your little one.
In addition, when the time comes to make a decision, you’ll have to do it much faster, because now you do not have the luxury to rethink a particular decision ten times. At times, you’ll be upset because of this, particularly when you need to make wedding plans, because you’ll want to do it slowly and thoroughly, yet you know that’s currently not possible.
But there’s a silver lining in all of this. You’ll become a lot more effective than before, and you’ll be a lot more confident about certain decisions.
Your Baby Has Stolen The Spotlight
Everybody knows that a wedding is one of the most important and biggest days in a person’s life, and that’s the reason why both the bride and groom are over the moon. But this excitement isn’t as huge when the newborn is here, because the parents are more thrilled about it than this special day.
In these types of situations, the wedding is here mostly as a reminder of the life the two of you are building and of the beautiful family you created. Now, this doesn’t mean that you aren’t happy about the wedding, but just not as “dramatic” as you’d be if your little angel weren’t here.
You Also Become Very Flexible
Maybe this will sound illogical to you, but you’ll actually become a lot more flexible when you become a mother. That’s because you’ll quickly realize that babies prevent you from being in control.
That’s just the way it is. You’ll plan certain things, but in most cases, they’ll be ruined or rescheduled due to various baby-related problems. Instead of being frustrated because of this, you’ll, at some point, simply embrace this change, and you’ll learn to accept the fact that timelines have become softer and that you need to allow your day to unfold naturally.
You’ll need to implement this change into your wedding day. But don’t worry. This doesn’t mean that it’s going to be chaotic, but that everyone (including you) will be a lot more relaxed because you won’t feel the need to control everything.
Motherhood Will Influence Your Style, As Well!
Many women drastically change their style when their little angel arrives. And this change can be seen on your wedding day, too! Why does this happen? Well, that’s because you no longer have the same vision of yourself (in terms of your style) as you used to have.
You no longer have the need to look as glamorous as you used to want before the baby, but you now prioritize comfort much more. This doesn’t mean that you won’t pick something that’s elegant, but you’ll also include comfort into that “equation”.
That’s because you’d want to be fully present in every sense on this special day, without experiencing any restrictions.
Help Becomes Necessary
A lot of young parents refuse to seek any help, thinking that they are capable of navigating everything all by themselves. Even though you probably can do most things without anyone’s assistance, keep in mind that sometimes, you’ll simply need to have someone in your corner.
And this doesn’t refer solely to your day-to-day duties and obligations, but to your wedding, as well. Tasks that you thought that you’d be able to pull off all on your own are now delegated between friends and family members.
Wedding planning is no longer a project that only you and your partner are supposed to organize, because once the baby is here, it becomes a group project, which is even better!
Small Mistakes Are No Longer Catastrophic
It’s no secret that adjusting to this new chapter in your life can be a bit difficult at first. You’ll have days when you won’t have enough time to wash your hair, or paint your nails, let alone something that requires more time.
And then, suddenly, (as you’re adapting to it) you realize that all of those tiny problems and mistakes that you’ve made in the past that made you want to scream at the top of your lungs are now basically nothing but a minor inconvenience.
Even if something bigger pops up, that no longer upsets you, because now, you’re taking care of a little human, which is oftentimes more challenging than many things. Just imagine then how easy it’s going to be to tackle anything that’s related to your wedding.
You will handle it like a pro; there’s no denying. Precisely this perspective is going to offer you some relief, because you know that now, you can face almost anything that comes your way.
When Emotions Hit
Various aspects of your life and personality change once you become a mother. One of the things that is also impacted by this is your emotional state. Most women notice how much deeper the emotional resonance feels.
Therefore, it completely makes sense if you conclude that everything that’s related to this special day makes you feel extremely emotional and sensitive. And it’s not only because you’ll say yes to the love of your life, but also because the life you two will have is going to be further embellished with a newborn.
Even the so-called most basic moments are going to tear you up because you are simply overly emotional, and that’s okay.
Self-Care Mustn’t Be Overlooked And Neglected
Yes, we know that right now everything revolves around two critical factors in your life, your wedding day and your little one. But just because they are currently your priority, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t overlook yourself in any way.
On the contrary, self-care must be included in your wedding planning. It doesn’t need to be anything particularly demanding and time-consuming. For starters, you take a short walk, so you can have some fresh air, do some meditation, or anything else that’s going to allow you to reset your brain and relax, and most importantly, have some me-time.
Taking care of yourself shouldn’t be a special occasion. It’s supposed to be part of your routine, if not daily, then at least a weekly routine. That’s precisely why it must be part of your wedding planning, as well.
By doing so, you will be properly prepared for the upcoming special day, and you won’t feel too tired because you found some for yourself.
You are entering a brand-new phase of your life. You’ve become a mom, and now, you’re about to become a wife, too! Both of these changes are wonderful and will further enrich your life, so be sure to enjoy them as much as you can.
